(Closed) Eloping, I think I just need some support.

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think having your wedding annoucements ready to  mail the very next day will take care of others finding out through others.  Everyone will hopefully get them in the mail about the same time assuming.

 

So you are worried about telling your mom in advance for fear she’ll be spreading the word before others get their annoucement?

 

Which do you thik would be easier for your family – telling them before or after?  Will they try to impede on your day if they know the info prior? 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think maybe tell your mom, grandma, and FI parents and swear them to secrecy. I’m a mom of two adult sons and I would feel sad that I couldn’t be with them in spirit for their wedding.

Parents and your grandma, in my opinion, should be accorded the honor of you telling them.

Post # 6
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4973 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it would be a good idea to tell immediate family. But tell them to keep quiet so the announcements can be read by everyone. Congrats, and best wishes!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with Pamelor.  We are telling his mom and I have already told my 2 BFFs… that’s it. 

If I end up with a cell phone picture I may email it to some of our closest family and friends as an “announcement” but we’re not mailing out anything formal (nor are we having a reeption). 

Also we are waiting a full week to change our FB status so we have time to reach out to family and friends that we wanted to tell personally after the fact.

 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I like the idea of telling the people closest beforehand. Maybe being in the loop will make them feel special enough so that there wont be a bunch of hard feelings about not being included.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@AquabatsCadet:  firstly, congrts on your elopement, thats what we’re prob going to be doing as we’re both very private people. in truth, i’d stick with the original plans, tell everyone at once. no one can claim they weren’t in the know. Its your day, do it your way. i’m from canada and would loveto go to vegas to be married, but there are so many choices lol

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I know thats a tough call, we had three very different reactions from parents.  My mom was great and totally understood that we dont want any family there.  My dad asked me to get air and hotel prices for him.  My fiancés mom cry and said that we planned it that way for the sole reason that she would not be able to attend. 

If you want your mom to know, maybe tell her the day before you guys leave.

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