Post # 1
So my fiance and I are “semi-eloping”, meaning, basically, we’re just telling everyone before we do so we dont piss off my parents. He’s in the military and we are getting married next month in Long Island on the Coast Guard base.
I need help in coming up with a list of stuff we have to do and how to go about it. I know how to get the license, I know we need to get the rings (we’re opting to use promise rings for the ceremony and until we can afford the “real” rings) and I do know that I’ll have to change my name (which is the BIGGEST thing I need help with)
Any Ideas or Advice for me??
Post # 3
we eloped and there are two things that i would change if we did it again.
1 was the time, we married 1pm on a blazing hot beach under the blazing hot sun – i would go for an early morning or late afternoon wedding.
2, we didnt hire a photographer and only got a few snaps from people we gave our cameras to so think about hiring someone when planning your ceremony
we also sent out “message in a bottle” announcements to all our friends and family so they were made aware we married and these went down really well, in fact they have since been copied by one of hubbys cousins
as you mentioned your FI is in the military i suggest you make sure you get a few copies of your marriage license because you will need them for the paperwork to get onto DEERS and change his BAH etc – other military bees will know more about this
Post # 4
We haven’t decided on a time yet, but I think just because of the witnesses who are going to be there (my parents, his mom) and their drive/travel time that it’ll either be late morning around 1030 or 11 or around sunset.
My sister is going to be our photographer, she’s not a proffesional but she is a hobbyist in the profession and does pretty decently…
How do I get certified copies of the license? Is that something I can get at the town hall when we go to pick it up?
Post # 5
im in australia so im not sure how your system works for wedding licenses – im guessing you have to apply at a courthouse so ask them or ask your officient “what now”. if you are not already a member my friend (married to a marine) is a member of military significate others and support site (militarysos) and i believe the ladies there can be helpful on the military spouse side for this
Post # 6
Thank you! I’ll check out that site now =)
Post # 7
Your husband has to update DEERS, but for sure get 2 extra copies of your marrige certificate. All you really need to do is change your name and remember to get the extra copies. Also check the state requirements for marriage licences. Most places will waive the wait period for military, but always double check. That’s all I did when I eloped with my military man. He had to do everything on the military side of things aside from obtaining an I.D. oh and be sure to check to see how much the licence cost as well as the officiant. I think we paid right around $140 for everything. Congrats on getting married! 😀
Post # 8
When you go to get your marriage license, the clerk should tell you how to get certified copies of your marriage license and typically you would get the copes from that office. Here in Columbus, Ohio, we usually tell people they will need 3-5 certified copies because you will need one to take to Social Security to change your name and then to the BMV and if you have a license for your job, you will need to have one for them as well. Your FI will need probably at least two for the military for insurance and benefits purposes. Also, if you have a passport, you will need one for them and sometimes Banks and credit card companies will also need them.
To change your name, just make sure you go to Social Security first because that is where the name change takes place.