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Hi, "CaribbeanBee",

I am pushing 70 and an etiquette snob. I happen to think offering your friends and family the option of replying by e-mail is considerate and perfectly correct -- more correct, in fact, than relying R.s.v.p. cards which I remember perfectly well from the 1970's as being a innovation of the nouveau-riche and not really "proper, dahling". At least with e-mail, no one who doesn't routinely write letters has to carry that little envelope around in her purse trying to remember to stop next time she drives past a letter-box. Incidentally, my brother who is ten years older than I am routinely communicates by e-mail too. These days it's getting hard to find even a senior citizen, at least a non-senile one, who doesn't.

Of course, hating R.s.v.p.'s as I do, I'd just put the email address on the invitation itself right under the "R.s.v.p." -- which is where Amy Vanderbilt back in the 1950's recommended you put the phone number of your social secretary. It must have been nice to have a social secretary to follow up your R.s.v.p.'s for you!