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We're doing e-mail save-the-dates, too, just because they're more cost efficient. I just sent a mass e-mail, but maybe you could make one version for those who can bring a significant other and then a second one for those who can't. I sent it to both people in the couple, if I had e-mails for both (after all, it's not extra cost, and perhaps one is more reliable with puting things on the calendar than the other :-D). Because our engagement is short, we figure that the invitations will be a good enough reminder, but if you're worried about them losing the e-mail, you could always send a second reminder one closer to the wedding.
It sounds like a paper STD might be more helpful for your guests and less stressful for you. You can do them pretty inexpensively. I used an online site with a coupon code and got 100 STDs, way more than I needed, for like $30 maybe?
We ended up doing an informal email/word-of-mouth because our wedding was fairly casual and just 50 ppl. But we did a luncheon reception for friends in our hometown (got married across the country) and for that we sent out invitations via pingg.com. Not sure if they have a Save The Date option, but I found it much more elegant than e-vite.
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For save the dates, all you are doing is letting people know the date of your wedding. Include a line at the bottom of the email that directs people to the wedding website information section. A good guest will never assume that certain people are invited until they get the actual invitations with the names of the invitees on them.
No matter what you do, you'll have a few less aware guests who will still pull shenanigans, and invite their second cousin or who ever.
But really all the save the dates need are your names and the dates!
Here's a link to ours:
I just sent out wedding invitations instead of Save the Dates ahead of time since I have a lot of family who will be coming from out of town. It saved a tremendous amount of money. Plus I called all my out-of-towners to make sure they knew.
Since you're having a destination wedding some guests may want to plan early and book travel.accomodations... it's tough for them if they don't know who they are invited with. I'd write up a standard invite, and take the time to send to each guest individually {or as a couple/family}. There will still be confusion, but it may help to cut it down! And it really shouldn't take that much longer (unless you have a huge guest list!)
I'd definitely follow up closer to the wedding date with an actual "invite" where guests are somehow required to RSVP - whether by email, on a website, etc. I haven't made ours yet, but we'll be emailing our invites and using Google Forms for the RSVP portion!
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So we've decided to go green and send email save-the-dates. But online, there is no etiquette info for this!
How do you make sure that certain guests understand that they cannot invite a guest? And for others who can bring their significant other, do you have to send it to each person in the couple? How do you make this clear?
Do you send a mass email or personalize each one and send it separately? Maybe that will clear up the confusion of who exactly is invited?
Also, we are having somewhat of a destination wedding so we want to send STDs out kind of early. Should we send them again closer to the wedding date in case people forget or deleted the email?? How can we even make sure everyone got the email?
HELP!! email STDs sounded great until I had to think about all of this!