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No worries on the STD's - FH and I are also having a formal wedding. We recently sent STD's that are quite formal - we're from Seattle and so a couple of people asked why we used three different colors of paper for each STD = meaning they think we aren't being 'green' and/or saving money...
Your STD's went out 'in todays day' way - you saved money and you were green - think of it that way. And don't let this bring you down. After all you are in the midst of planning one of the most wonderful days of your life - and your guests will want to be there 
i wouldn't worry at all! save the dates really aren't that important. they're really just a little reminder to your guests to keep your date open. your invites will be what sets the mood for your wedding. no worries--you're good!
Sigh. Yeah, we are having a pretty formal wedding.
I am starting to think that I should have sent out regular paper STDs since we are having a Sunday wedding. (some people would need to take a day off).
My main concern with email is that people don't check it but every once in a while, there are always people who don't use email, and spam folders are a problem. You could send out cards, too, and just make it like a "double whammy" of save the dates?
Well, we were only able to send out STDs to the younger population of our guest. Some of the older guests either don't speak/read english/ don't use a computer. But those people already know our wedding date (most of those people are family members).
Aw, don't worry. I think the invitations will really help set the tone of the wedding.
I think that as long as everyone that needed to get the message got it, there's nothing to worry about. I do think with a formal wedding that it would have been better to send out paper STDs (to help set the style and tone of the wedding). Your older/non-computer literate family members might feel a little bit left out that they didn't get a special message about the wedding date, but I don't see much point in doing a second round of invites now though since it sounds like everyone knows the date.
I mean honestly, STD's are a relatively new tradition...it kind of goes hand-in-hand with email. Like the previous poster said, your decision was so earth-friendly, plus it was low-stress and cost you less money! Nobody's going to think twice about any sort of 'mixed message' between email STD and formal wedding. Your formal paper invite will set the tone. Stop stressing! It's not a big deal AT ALL.
There are no rules for this girlfriend-- I'm sure your save the dates were awesome via e-mail. If nothing else it expresses your laid back, non-showy natures. I wouldn't worry about it. Pick out invitations that you love and leave the save the dates as a memory.
I think as long as you mail out proper formal invitations, you are fine :)
Plus, you mentioned that your older guests who are not as computer-savvy are aware of your date- it sounds like you've covered all your bases.
We had a lovely wedding with email Save the dates. I think it made us look smart, not cheap... and when we sent out the regular invites, that really set the mood. Don't sweat it, Save the dates are just to get the info out there. They don't have to set the tone!
Tacky, tacky, tacky. I don't care if you're spending $4K or $400K on a wedding -- email STD's are tacky!
We toyed with the idea, and honestly we went with paper just because I am in LOVE with my invites, and we could get save the dates to match. But this was our spin for the email-haters and you, of course, may have permission to use: We're going GREEN y'all!
unless @LacrosseBride is being sarcastic, $40K is not small amount to spend on a wedding -- keep your opinions about other people's budget to yourself if you're going to be rude.
@Aug8Bride -- we are sending out electronic STD's too (and we're also having a formal, military wedding), but I think it's totally fine! You just want people to have the date saved so they can be there for your special day. Your invitations are really going to set the tone for your wedding. Don't worry! :)
No, not tacky, and I wouldn't want to hang with a crowd who would consider it tacky. This is the FIRST thing most green wedding how-to books propose! You're saving trees, and $$. Not a problem.
AugBBride- I don't think people will think it's any less formal if it's an e-mail STD. Hey it's eco friendly, right!
And Lacrosse- that was mean. The word tacky isn't used here. We are here to support, yes you can express your opinions but do so in a much kinder manner
You don't even HAVE to do a STD! I wouldn't care if I got one... But, make sure your invite is reflective of the wedding.
Kingcake - There's a theology degree that will give you the designation after your name of S.T.D :-)
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Hello ladies! I'm new to the boards! :)
My FI and I are having a pretty fancy-ish wedding at a winery and we just sent out our STDs. But, they were just the free ones through email. I regret it now. I feel like it won't set the mood for our 40k wedding. :(
What do you brides think?