Emailing or Mailing STDs?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How are you sending out your STDs?
    Good old snail mail. : (24 votes)
    71 %
    Doing the email route. : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Combination of both. : (5 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I did both methods mostly because my STDs were expensive and only came in increments of 50 and I probably needed about 70.  I gave STDs to all older people and the people most important to me (my closest family and friends all got one regardless of whether they were tech savy).  More distant family and some friends I was still getting addresses for just got emailed versions (which worked well for people I didn’t know the addresses for yet, because I could ask that as well as attach a STD to an email)

    Post # 4
    1644 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Jewelieee:  If you want to stick to traditional mailing, then please do not send “STDs”. Older folk, at least those who do not hang around wedding message boards for entertainment, are more likely to be like “w.t.d.* why AM I getting printed advertising material, for a wedding!!??!” The only people who actually expect “STDs” are brides who believed their stationer when he told them they had to give him a couple extra hundred dollars for Save-the-Date cards.

    Traditionally, your mailing would take the form of handwritten personal notes to those people whose presence at your wedding is essential to your happiness. Everyone else gets perfectly adequate notice when you send out the actual invitations ten weeks before your event. Personal individual emails are not as gracious as notes are, but they are still far better than mass-printed advertising.

    And individualizing all those notes or emails will prevent you from falling into the classic newly-affianced error of sending “STDs” to more people than, in the end, you really want to invite.

    Post # 5
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Jewelieee:  We were more casual with our save the dates, some were mailed and some just hand delivered. We will be formally mailing all of our invites though.

    Post # 6
    2895 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i wasn’t going to do save the dates at all, but i had so many people asking over and over when my wedding was that i did online save the dates thru but people still kept asking me, so i don’t think they did much good, haha. maybe they needed an actual card to keep on their fridge.

    Post # 7
    2051 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We sent ours by post, because I think everyone loves getting things in the post that aren’t bills, so I thought it would make it more fun. Lots of friends and family have them up on the mantelpiece! 🙂

    Post # 8
    11614 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If I received an email STD, I’d forget about it.  It would get buried in my email, or deleted, and I probably would neglect to actually save said date.  Just being honest here.  At least with a paper/magnet/tangible something, I can have a reminder.

    Post # 9
    5160 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Jewelieee:  There is nothing traditional about STDs, so I wouldn’t worry about offending anyone.  Save the Dates are something that have only come into existence in the past decade or so.

    Post # 10
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We were going to do only emailed by our website with link to the site but then I got an amazing deal on magnet save the dates, so we did both. We’ll do the same for invitations And the evite will link directly to the site, allowing ppl to RSVP online. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how many ppl and how man older ppl have been checking out our site for info (the site lets me see who’s looked and when). 

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