Post # 1
My FI just received an STD via email from one of his friends, which got us discussing how we were going to handle our own STDs. I think that we should stick to traditional mailing, especially because half our guest list is adults who are my parents’ age or older and they might be like wtf why am I not getting a card in the mail. FI thinks that it’s ok to send all the STDs through email but agrees on the possible reactions of the older folk. He also suggested doing email for our friends and mail for our family and their friends, but I’d prefer to just do one method for all the STDs. What are you Bees doing? And what’s the proper etiquette? Thanks!
Post # 3
I did both methods mostly because my STDs were expensive and only came in increments of 50 and I probably needed about 70. I gave STDs to all older people and the people most important to me (my closest family and friends all got one regardless of whether they were tech savy). More distant family and some friends I was still getting addresses for just got emailed versions (which worked well for people I didn’t know the addresses for yet, because I could ask that as well as attach a STD to an email)
Post # 4
@Jewelieee: If you want to stick to traditional mailing, then please do not send “STDs”. Older folk, at least those who do not hang around wedding message boards for entertainment, are more likely to be like “w.t.d.* why AM I getting printed advertising material, for a wedding!!??!” The only people who actually expect “STDs” are brides who believed their stationer when he told them they had to give him a couple extra hundred dollars for Save-the-Date cards.
Traditionally, your mailing would take the form of handwritten personal notes to those people whose presence at your wedding is essential to your happiness. Everyone else gets perfectly adequate notice when you send out the actual invitations ten weeks before your event. Personal individual emails are not as gracious as notes are, but they are still far better than mass-printed advertising.
And individualizing all those notes or emails will prevent you from falling into the classic newly-affianced error of sending “STDs” to more people than, in the end, you really want to invite.
Post # 5
@Jewelieee: We were more casual with our save the dates, some were mailed and some just hand delivered. We will be formally mailing all of our invites though.
Post # 6
i wasn’t going to do save the dates at all, but i had so many people asking over and over when my wedding was that i did online save the dates thru punchbowl.com. but people still kept asking me, so i don’t think they did much good, haha. maybe they needed an actual card to keep on their fridge.
Post # 7
We sent ours by post, because I think everyone loves getting things in the post that aren’t bills, so I thought it would make it more fun. Lots of friends and family have them up on the mantelpiece! 🙂
Post # 8
If I received an email STD, I’d forget about it. It would get buried in my email, or deleted, and I probably would neglect to actually save said date. Just being honest here. At least with a paper/magnet/tangible something, I can have a reminder.
Post # 9
@Jewelieee: There is nothing traditional about STDs, so I wouldn’t worry about offending anyone. Save the Dates are something that have only come into existence in the past decade or so.
Post # 10
We were going to do only emailed by our website with link to the site but then I got an amazing deal on magnet save the dates, so we did both. We’ll do the same for invitations And the evite will link directly to the site, allowing ppl to RSVP online. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how many ppl and how man older ppl have been checking out our site for info (the site lets me see who’s looked and when).