Post # 1
Neither of our families live in the same city (or even country!) that we’re getting married in, so we need to get out Save the Dates as quickly as possible. Problem is, my fiance has never received a Save the Date card (is that an English thing?) and is 100% against spending international postage for STDs. He wants to just send emails to people, but I’d like something a bit more formal. Has anyone used evites or any sort of online invitation service for this? Is that tacky? I thought it might be a good compromise…
Post # 2
Wiselizabeth: Not tacky, it’s efficient.
We went out e-mail STD. My friend is a graphic designer so she designed a STD for us then sent it to me, I saved it as a jpeg and e-mailed it to everyone.
It took me a long time, and it was a lot of work gathering peoples e-mails, but it worked our great, and was free! People loved having the e-mail because they could easily STD on their computer, or phone or whatever. We had intended on printing out a couple STD for older relatives who don’t use the comp… but we kind of gave up haha. I found STD to be slightly useless anyways, and we’ve added people to the guest list since we sent them out. Meh… it was fun at the time.
I would design it yourself, or have someone else do it then upload it as a jpeg, that way everyone can see it. We have a lot of people on our list who live out in the country and have very slow internet so if it was a complex e-vite it would have taken a long time to open it. Sometimes simplier is better.
Post # 3
We used pingg.com to make a nice Save The Date e-card, which also directed guests to our (then-nascent) wedding website address for more information so they could refer back as the planning progressed. I think it turned out well and it saved a few trees, which was why DH wanted to go electronic.
We also did electronic invites & RSVPs, btw, so there are a lot of ways to save postage/paper if you’re so inclined!
Post # 4
I don’t think email save the dates are tacky at all. They are a recent phenomenon anyway. I have gotten several invitations from Paperless Post; they are very nice and can be made to look very formal.
Post # 5
We used Paperless Post as well and it was easy, beautiful and very customizable. I highly recommend it. 🙂 Our wedding was formal but the Save the Dates needed to be sent quickly for our holiday weekend wedding so this option was perfect for us.
Post # 6
Wiselizabeth: We have the same problem. 200 guests on the guest list and more than half require international postage (x3? STDS, Invites, Thank yous?)
We made our own video, posted it online, emailed the link to everyone for the save the dates (all of our guest list is tech friendly.)
We sent proper invites (but mailed them while we were overseas. They went early, but they went with mostly domestic postage.) The at home guests had mostly hand delivered invites. There have been a few at home and around the world that received mailed invites but that was probably less than 15 total.
We will mail all the thank yous when the time comes.
The postage to send all 3 was insane. $3 a piece for international from here. That’d be $9 in total for each guest. It’s nearly a grand in postage for half the guest list. It’d be another $600 for the domestic guests. 1.5k just to mail things? Um no. I can use that money elsewhere.
Post # 7
Wiselizabeth: Not tacky at all and given your situation, this is definitely a more practical method of sending them.
We used http://www.greenvelope.com to send them to our out of town guests only and the way it’s presented in the email is really well done. They have lots of different designs to choose from and a really nice guest managment feature that will let you know who received and opened your email. Your first 10 email address are free, but anything over that will cost $29.99 for unlimited emails, which is way cheaper than sending out paper STDs.
Post # 8
We emailed our Save The Dates with no issues. My husband does graphic design and made ours. Everyone loved the personal touch!
Post # 9
pinkandgold88: My friends used paperless post for their STD and wedding invitations. I loved that I was able to immediately click links (without having to manually type it in from a card/magnet/etc.) AND I was able to automatically add it to my Google calendar.
I think it’s a pretty and practical way to send STDs and invitations. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks so much everyone. I definitely feel better about it, and I’ll look into all the wonderful companies you’ve suggested!
Post # 11
Wiselizabeth: Just a word of caution on the email thing. We got one and almost deleted it thinking it was junk mail. One of our friends in California is getting married, but we don’t know the FI. So when we got an email from a random name we almost didn’t even open it thinking it was spam.
Post # 12
I’m doing email too, not tacky, efficient and smart. I have to decide how to do it though.