Post # 1
So, ummm, does anybody else abstain when Aunt Flo comes to vist? I’m just curious. We do but it’s not working out so well for either one of us. With the exception of a couple of bad days, it wouldn’t bother me to keep up with our usual activities. But my fiance is hesitant. I don’t think it’s so much that he’s grossed out about it, but I think it’s more that it’as a mystery. He doesn’t have any sisters and I’m the only woman he’s lived with other than his mom. So the whole womanly, Aunt Flo, down there things-he’s totally clueless. But he gets frustrated and whines about it. So how do I talk to him about this without totally embarassing the both of us?
And yes, I’m sitting here alone in my house with a red face. My bff is very very modest and doesn’t like to talk about these things. And I’m not going to talk about it with my FMIL!
Post # 3
HAHA I understand. My best friend has never dated anyone so it’s hard to talk about anything relationship wise with her.
Fortunately my FI is very understanding and no, we don’t. Just personal preference. If your FI gets so antsy about it and doesn’t want to, then explain that there are certain days that yes, it’s out of the question. Too much "fun" going on at the moment. It all depends on how light you are during your cycle and when. IMHO, if he can’t wait several days or even a week but still whines about it, then he needs to make up his mind HAHA It’s one or the other because you can’t tell the party to stop just because he wants to get busy.
Hope that helps!
Post # 4
Sometimes. It’s fine, just a bit messy. Just put a towel underneath you and it’s all good. 🙂
Post # 5
I always wait. I just prefer to keep the house as clean and tidy as possible when Aunt Flo is visiting and she only visits for 3-4 days so I can wait. LOL
I think it’s a matter of personal preference and whatever makes you guys comfortable. Aunt Flo’s visit doesnt have to rule everything out though obviously so the waiting doesn’t always have to feel so long.
Post # 6
We don’t abstain at all, but my period is very light. I’ve found that it also helps with my cramps and general moodiness!
Post # 7
I think it’s different for everyone and all personal preference. I’ve had exes who totally did not mind at all and we definitely did during that time without any qualms. I’ve also dated guys who totally DID mind. With my fi, we sometimes do but not often, and not when Aunt Flo is more.. err… prominently visiting than others. It’s usually because I don’t really want to though, not because he minds too much. When we do we put down a towel.
I think my advice is to not worry about what other couples do and don’t do because everyone is different and it’s completely personal preference. It just is a bummer that your fi whines about not doing it when you have it but also doesn’t want to. I would suggest trying it on one of your lighter days and maybe he’ll see it’s not so bad. Also, the best thing you can do is be honest and talk about it.. don’t be shy with him about it!! You’re getting MARRIED- he’s going to see you at your worst and eventually something as insignificant as Aunt Flo’s visit will be nothing! So start talking now! Don’t be embarassed, we all go through it!! Good luck!
Post # 8
We usually don’t when we’ve got a visitor. It’s not that we’re against it, I’m just a little worried about making a mess in our bed. We also use towels to keep things neat and tidy, when we do it on my period.
Post # 9
We, um, usually abstain. I used to be fine with it before we actually started having intercourse (back when we were just touching) but nowadays I get really shy about it. My fiance wants to try, but he made the mistake last time of admitting that he was a little grossed out about the blood (he…umm…doesn’t deal well with blood; let’s just say that our birthing experience will be INTERESTING, to say the least), so I’m still on the abstaining end of thing. It doesn’t bother me to wait (plus I don’t want to deal with the mess), and if he whines too much I glare at him.
Post # 10
sometimes we do sometimes we don’t. just depends on how it’s going that month. sometimes i like to wait it out though- whole new experience after a few days 🙂
Post # 11
We don’t abstain on the lighter days, on the heavier days we make use of alternative methods of intimacy …
Post # 12
abstain! just my preference, and FI respects that =)
Post # 13
my hormones go into overdrive at that time! anyways, my hubby is a bit more shy about sex than i am so it gives me a good excuse to seduce him while in the shower and he doesnt complain… poor man, im nothing like any of his ex’s but im not a fan of twister in the bed during my periods
Post # 14
I guess it’s different for everyone, but to me that is just gross (not trying to be mean, it just grosses me out). I’ve been with multiple guys and with every one I’ve abstained during that week. I don’t get my period anymore (I go from one pack of BC right to the next) so it’t not really an issue for us anymore. But I agree with what monalisa said. Do your own thing, only you and your guy know what you’re comfortable with. Plus for me, sometimes I could use a week-long Twister break.
Post # 15
We tried it back early on when we didn’t get to see each other more than a week every few months, but it grossed hubby out (it was kind of nasty), but I’m on birth control pills now so my period is lighter. We won’t do anything right in the middle of it, but towards the end it’s usually ok.
Post # 16
We do (did; now pregnant) abstain, mostly by his choice. On the heavy/first days, I am all for abstaining, I feel gross and I want ice cream more than nooky. After that, though, I am kind of cranky that he insists on waiting until I am TOTALLY done, because at that point I was usually, um, quite ready. 🙂 But that was during our newlywed "Oh my gosh sex is awesome!!!1" stage so I don’t know how it will change down the road.