Post # 1
My FSIL is very excited about FI and I’s wedding. I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid, because she and I aren’t really close, nor is she close with her brother. She’s disappointed, but understands, and is really excited to help with anything she can for the day. She and my only local bridesmaid are throwing a shower for me, and unfortunately I kind of hate all of her ideas for it 🙁 I just got my invite yesterday, and it’s… well, it’s not good. My name is only spelled correctly in one place (incorrectly in two others), the info on how to find our registries is wrong, it’s full of other typos and worded poorly/awkwardly, AND she included a note: “Please don’t wrap your gifts, the bride would like to spend time with her guest! (sic)” My heart kind of dropped when I read that – I’ve never seen anything like that on an invite, and my gut reaction is that it makes me sound like a gift grabby bridezilla, and I want to apologize to any of my friends that received it. Has anyone else seen this on any invitations? Am I overreacting? I know she didn’t show it to my bm before mailing it – bm would have caught the mistakes and been able to make adjustments.
Post # 3
@abbylyn: I know it sucks, but everyone will know that you didn’t do it!
Post # 4
Yikes… sorry I don’t have any good advice. As a stickler for grammar, that would drive me nuts!
Post # 5
I would create my own shower invites with a note to disregard the previous invitation
Post # 6
Ask the other bridesmaid to send out a corrected invite?
Post # 7
@WhiteWedding: That’s what I keep telling myself! I thought about redoing invites and sending new ones out, but I just feel like it’s not worth the drama it would create.
And I really like actually OPENING presents too. One of my favorite parts of my sister’s shower was watching her open all her gifts!
Post # 9
at least she didn’t spell it “rap” ….
Post # 10
i wasn’t going to comment after reading the OP and i got off line and started doing laundry. the more i thought about it the more it really chapped my ass for you OP. i would be livid! who sends out invites without double and triple checking the spelling, grammar and that the info is correct? you don’t think she did it on purpose, do you?
i would talk to FSIL about it and voice your concerns. this shower is for you and it represents you! those invitations went out to your family and friends. i would be mortified. i mean, she misspelled your name FFS.
talk to her about it and firmly let her know you will be sending out new invites. i would want it made extremely clear that those original invites were not your doing to all who received them.
just my two cents.
Post # 11
I was going to use the word “mortified” as well. What a sucky situation. I’m sorry.
Post # 12
That would drive me nuts! How did she spell your name wrong? I would have your other bridesmaids send out a reprint or at least spread the word that you want to open your presents that’s so weird to even write that
Post # 13
Recall the invitations and send out your own. I am so sorry this has happened to you.
And what’s the bit about not wrapping the gifts? Goodness, watching the bride open the gifts is one of the main shower highlights!
Post # 14
I would call everyone invited & explain/apologize
Post # 15
That really stinks, sorry!
Post # 16
Oh man! How awkward! I’m sorry! I think you have to talk to her about it. How does she spell your name wrong 2 outta the 3 times? I mean come on!
As PP mentioned your friends and family will know it’s not you who did them. I’m not sure I’d go to the trouble of sending newe invites. Maybe word of mouth you could let guests know to wrap the gifts?