(Closed) Embarrassed about how stressed I am

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2462 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

awww, don’t be embarassed! it’s really, really, REALLY good that you showed him the list–he definitely should step in and help out. the very best thing my mother said to me throughout the entire planning process was about a week and a half before the wedding–she said she saw it as her job to get things off my plate. delegate, delegate, delegate! as much as you can! get as much as you can out of your hands so it’s not all on you.

Post # 4
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Take another look at that to-do list and start killing things that really aren’t important.  And don’t snap at your family and friends–ask them for help, nicely.  You would be surprised how many people WANT to help.  Our best man helped me jazz up the generic flower girl baskets when my DIY project failed.

Post # 5
41 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012

Kudos for keeping the lines of communication open.  I’m at the 9 month before mark and I am trying to get as much done now as possible and Fiance doesn’t understand why I keep getting frustrated about planning stuff now.  He’s from the school of “Things will fall together” and I’m of the school “Things will fall together because I make them”. 

Don’t forget to take a little time for yourself in this process.  I know it probably feels like you are coming up hard against a deadline, and you are, but that doesn’t mean that every waking moment needs to be wedding.  Take a deep breath, step back a moment and do something not wedding.  Then come back, reorganize if necessary and keep talking your man.  Let him know how he can help.  If he’s anything like my guy, he’d help if he knew how (and I suck at delegating), so now that he’s seen your to-do list, pick something off of it, discuss why it is important to the wedding and have him do it.  (The “why its important” talk is necessary in my household, and the “I’ve never planned a wedding so I don’t really know what’s supposed to happen” is NOT an excuse!)

Post # 6
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Dude, weddings are stressful. And men just sometimes think it is a giant party like back in college and all you need to do is stop on the way to the party to grab pizza and beer. Uh…no.

Good on you for keeping everything open. It will all come together, you are now on the home stretch.

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