Embarrassing Husband

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Member
2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@charliebear1613:  He has asked for counseling, and I think it would be a good idea to try it. Clearly, he feels that something is wrong and wants some help. That’s never a bad thing (wanting help I mean). He could just give up or let it get worse, right? The counselor can help the both of you explore why his personality has undergone such a huge change in a short amount time. Maybe he doesn’t know how to talk about it on his own, and this is his way of asking for the help he needs. 

Post # 4
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5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If one person in the relationship wants to go to counseling, you both go PERIOD. He wants to go, so go. The therapist can help you figure out how much is due to sleep deprivation (sleeping off cycles can really mess with your head) and how much is an underlying issue that was simmering under the surface and the stress of mot seeing each other has caused it to bubble up.

Post # 5
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3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

He wants to solve these problems, he wants to work on things and in his eyes, you keep pushing him away.

Make time for each other, go to counselling, you love this man right? You’d do anything for him? Then go to counselling when he asks you too. He wants this to all stop just as much as you do.

 

Post # 6
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Marriage / Couples Counselling always works best WHEN there are BOTH PARTIES there

If there is enough of a problem that one feels counselling is needed, then that person in very least needs to go on their own

As he is the one wanting this, it is up to you decide how important it is TO YOU to work on the issue.

If it is important, in so much as you care about this Marriage, then you OWE it to him to go

I am an Oldtimer (over 50)

And I read your whole post, and to me it looks like seeing as you’ve only been married since April you guys are facing “FIRST YEAR” Problems

Believe it or not, being Married is different from Dating, even different from Living Together

It sounds to me like he’s come to understand that concept

And perhaps be overwhelmed by it

OR else he had some preconceived ideas about Marriage, and now that he’s married, those “ideas” aren’t matching up with reality.

You guys need a “tune up” so you can get back on the same page…

Counselling is the way to do it

Good Luck (( HUGS ))

 

Post # 8
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Any chance alcohol was involved at all in any of these incidences? Just a shot in the dark…but regardles sounds like there are some issues and resentments that are affecting his behavior. He said he wants to seek counseling and I dont’ think it’s a bad idea. Just stay strong! You can get past this.

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