Post # 1
Im just hoping some bees will say t his has happend to them before! I am a regular bee, incognito because I’m just too embarrassed.
Last night, after me, Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law had dinner (FMIL is living with us at the moment as she’s newly divorced), me and Fiance went upstairs and began to get ready for bed..took showers got into PJ’s etc….but then we decided to make love.
Long story short, Future Mother-In-Law opened the door without knocking, mid-foreplay. I guess the best way I can put it genty was he was the one performing. We were both naked…but he had his hands on my chest. She looked right at me and then turned around and shut the door. Fiance heard the door open and he froze. He then asked who opened the dooor (could have been only her or perhaps her 3 year old granddaughter who she babysits sometimes)…and I said it was his mom and he turned bright red. I mean, it was prettty bad, allt he lights were on even.
We obvioulsy stopped right in our tracks sat up and laughed about it for a few minutes but then glimped the akwardness we would now have to face..
Me and Fiance have lived together for quite a while now, his mother moved in not long ago too though she has stayed with us plenty of times before, she has a room on the opposite side of the house now. None of the rooms have locks, but there’s alwyas been a strict knocking policy.
I still can’t get over how embarrassed I feel and how angry I am for her barging in on us.
He went downstairs and asked her what she wanted that was so important and she explained her grandaughter had gotten hurt and was crying and she came to ask us if we saw what happend (she babysits her grandaughter but half the time lets her wander the house unattended)…she apologized to him for walking in…
omg..how do I get over this humiliation.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that happened! I have no advice other than to just act like it didnt happen. You can pretty much assume she’ll never barge in again!
Post # 4
Just keep remembering that she is feeling all those same feelings of embarrassment, humiliation and is probably angry at herself for not knocking! You have to let it go and make things easier on each other…if you are awkward around her, she’ll continue to be awkward around you. The best thing to do (IMO) is to be straight up with her the way your Fiance was, address it, and laugh it off. It happens to the best of us!
Post # 5
omg that is awkward and i’m sorry that happened! you’re all adults and she moved into your house, you’re engaged. try to talk to her and reiterate the strict knocking policy. it’ll pass, life goes on and this will be forgotten. or you’ll just laugh at it for years to come 🙂
Post # 6
Don’t waste time on it. It happened, she apologized, move on. Nothing to be embarassed about…
Post # 7
OMG, I’m blushing for you right now. I can’t say it’s happened to me before, but she really should have knocked. What a breach of privacy, even if you hadn’t been doing anything. I would just go on as usual and act as if nothing had happened. I would probably ask Fiance to talk about the knocking policy again. Sorry this happened to you, but at least you guys were able to laugh over it.
Post # 8
Yikes. I would be mortified! But don’t worry too much; I’m sure over time, the humiliation you’re feeling will fade. Of course I understand why you feel embarrassed, but YOU didn’t do anything wrong. Just remember that when you start to cringe thinking about the incident. It was totally rude and inappropriate for her to walk in without knocking, especially at bedtime. Even if you weren’t gettin’ busy, you could have been naked while you dried off after your shower… SHE should be the one who’s embarrassed. It’s nice that she apologized, though…
Post # 9
I had this happen to me once. It’s embarassing and I’m sure she’s already tried to forget it out of her mind. It was traumatic for her too I bet.
I would just try hard to forget about it and never think about it again. Locking the door might help too! 🙂 Just so you get in the habit with a child around!
Post # 10
On the plus side, I’m sure she will ALWAYS knock from now on out so it will never happen again!
Post # 11
Gosh Girl, I feel for you…
I would be soooo many feelings…
Freaked Out – Embarassed – Angry – Humiliated – Peeved
This lady sooo owes you both, and especially YOU an apology (as you are not a member of “her” immediate family)
Think I’d be at the Hardware Store today buying some serious locks for areas of the house that you expect privacy in (Bedroom – Bathroom etc) especially so if there is an unattended 3 year old running around your house as well…
WHY run the risk twice, I say.
Other than that, I honestly don’t know what to say… I’d be soo ticked off, but so embarassed by it all, that I don’t think I could ever see her face to face again
(lol, if it was I, I think my Fiance would be having a chat with the offender… that they need to move out asap)
Post # 12
Wow, bet she wished she knocked now. The embarrassment is more on your Future Mother-In-Law, it is your house and bedroom after all, what are you supposed to do when she lives there, be celibate and have no privacy?
Might be time to invest in a door latch 🙂
Post # 13
Oh sweetie, that sucks. I think the first thing you need to do is get little eyehook latches for your door so that can’t happen again! Though it probably never will. Also it’s kind of like with spiders being just as afraid of you; she’s just as humiliated as you are.
I think that laughing about it, a lot, with people who are close to you but won’t spread it around will help you heal a little bit. Humiliating things get less humiliating the more they turn into funny stories. Sometimes I think that’s why we laugh at all as a species, it gets us over things like that.
It’ll be awkward, but with time you’ll all move past it.
Post # 14
Ahhhh! I would definitely be purchasing a lock for the door!
Post # 15
a similar thing happened to me once. It was the first time I was visiting his parents. Fi was then boyfriend and we were staying together in the basement. So, of course I wanted to have sex. I started giving him a BJ, nobody was at home. Then his Mom arrived and called him to help with taking the groceries from the car!
HAhahahaha. he put a t-shirt hanging from his shorts to cover the “boner”…
Post # 16
Super embarrassing, but . . . the worst is that first time you see her after that. It only gets easier from there!