Post # 1
I love my father but we have never had an easy relationship, especially when I was growing up. I often felt embarrassed by things he did. On my wedding day six months ago, I was glad he gave a speech but a lot of what he said embarrassed me. He started off the speech by saying, ‘You’re going to listen to this speech whether you like it or not’, in an aggressive tone towards a group of my friends who were quite drunk by that stage. I felt rather embarrassed by this. After this, he talked about my childhood, particularly how I used to cry a lot. I found this comment hurtful, because the reason I used to cry was because of how he would treat me. After this, he mentioned that I was a deep thinker. He mentioned some profound things I had said, and before one of them, he said, ‘My daughter doesn’t know how I found this out’, and proceeded to say something I think he read from one of my childhood journals. I felt like he crossed the line a few times, and I should have policed his speech a bit better due to past experiences. Just wondering if anyone else has a similar experience when someone embarrassed them during a speech.
Post # 2
Ugh that sounds horrible! I’m sorry. I was also minorly hurt by some of the things people said in the speeches but nothing as bad as that.
Post # 3
That sounds so awful im sorry! This is the reason I’m not having any speeches at our wedding though. My dad is lovely but can be so embarassing and tells alot of jokes that no one finds funny. He also rambles on for ages without getting to the point so I’ve already told him no speech! Im still terrified to think he may prepare one anyway and do it spur of the moment on the day ARGH! At a family friends wedding, the best man did a pretty awful speech- really long with lots of jokes about sex with the bride (for the record my dad found it hilarious – so yeah…). I felt really sorry for them. I could tell the best man did it because he was just so nervous but it was SO awkward. You are definitely not alone though, people are often embarassed by the speeches.
Post # 4
dandelion93: My dad is doing a speech at my wedding. So far all he’s said about it is ‘I have loads of stories about your sisters but can’t really think of any stories about you’… thanks Dad! Now I feel special. I am fully expecting to be embarassed but am just going to take little signs with my sisters’ names on and hold them up when the stories are either about one of them instead or too embarassing for me to accept responsibility
Post # 5
that’s rough, I’m sorry. I think that was one of the reason why my cousin didn’t allow my uncle in her wedding last june. but I think that is not enough to not allow her dad in her wedding. I couldn’t imagine my reaction if that would happen to me.
Post # 6
dandelion93: that’s horrible. I’m sorry its something you still are upset over.
But, I think I’ve heard worse (yay!). My FIs good friend got married 3 years ago (since divorced). His best man was his brother. His speech, consisted of pants peeing, ex girlfriends, and ex fiance, drinking stories (in front of the wife’s uber proper family), drug use (just pot, but still), calling the groom every name under the sun, talking about his irresponsibility… I could go on. I think everyone in the room had a blank stare with mouths wide open. It was horrible. The best man thought he was hilarious. He wasn’t. The best part? Apparently, that was the “toned down” version of his original speech.
Chin up honey! Its not that bad. You’re married now 🙂