Post # 1
So, for probably obvious reasons, I made up a fake name. But this is really a serious question, that I was embarrassed to ask about under my real name.
I guess the best way to say it is to be direct–we can’t find the used condom. Like, afterwards it was gone. Which leads me to think it may have fallen in, which is scary to think about, and gross, and uncomfortable. And I don’t know what to do.
We both looked around, and not being able to find it, that was the only thought. (Typing this out, it sounds like it should be a lame joke for a teen comedy.). But, really…I’m worried because I’m not sure what to do. I definitely know to get Plan B, because I don’t want to get pregnant. But otherwise…I don’t know. I mean, I’m not sure if it is gone like, inside, because I don’t feel anything. But maybe I wouldn’t?
And I know going to a doctor is probably smart, but I don’t have insurance, and also that would be really an uncomfortable first visit. So, I don’t know, 🙁
Does anyone have any advice? I know this sounds like a weird joke question, and I wish I could laugh at it too. But, seriously it did happen, and if anyone could give me some advice, I would be really appreciative.
Post # 3
@hiding71: You should definitely head to the doctor. If the condom is still inside you, it could cause an infection or other problems. Is there a women’s clinic or Planned Parenthood near you. Those places tend to provide low-cost care to women, so it could be worth checking out since you don’t have insurance. You could go to PP to get Plan B, and while you’re there, ask to see a doctor.
Post # 4
A condom cannot really get lost inside of you, there’s no place for it to go since it can’t go past your cervix. Just feel in there with your fingers and if you can’t feel it, then its not in there. Did you take the bed apart? Do you have a pet that might have snuck away with it? Hope you find it and feel better soon!!
ps here is a very informative article from cosmo that I found:
Post # 5
There is no way that is can get ‘lost’ inside your body that you can’t find it. I would try sitting on the toilet and putting a finger inside to look for it since it might have gone back past your cervix making it hard to find. Don’t forget that Plan B is more effective the sooner you take it.
Post # 6
I actually had this happen once. FI had to go “all the way up ” in there before he found it. Like the PP said though, it doesn’t have anywhere to go so try to relax and you should be able to find it.
Post # 7
I agree with @mmbar that it could cause an infection if it is, in fact, still inside you. I’ve never had this happen, but it did happen to a friend of mine. She was able to remove it using her fingers (after relaxing her muscles). I would try that and if you’re not able to remove/find it, a trip to the doctor (or Planned Parenthood, as mmbar suggested) is a necessity. They also charge a sliding fee, so it won’t break the bank, and in my experience they are professional and very nice. Don’t worry, they’ve seen way worse and it will probably be a quick and easy appointment.
You are not the only person this has happened to so don’t be embarrassed!
Edited to add: Agree that there’s no place for it to go. Only reason to go to the doctor is if you can’t get it out yourself. Don’t worry, you can get this resolved this morning one way or another!
Post # 8
Yeah, planned parenthood would probably be a good option. I do leave near by one, so I think I’ll check that out. And get over my being embarrassed, because I probably have no choice.
Post # 9
If both of you have felt around in there (hey he may have better access!) and you don’t feel it, I doubt it could be stuck somewhere that’s not accessible. But I would head to the doc or PP anyway if you’re not sure. And remember, it’s nothing they haven’t seen a thousand times!
This may seem super dumb, but are you 100% sure he used one? Sometimes it’s such a mundane thing that you think you did when you didn’t! Like unplugging the hair straightener or closing the garage door. Happens to me all the time!
I really hope you find it!
Post # 10
I think this happens a lot more often than you know- so no need to be really embarassed by it.
I would either sit on a toilet and try to fish for it… or be in a standing position with one leg up on the toilet seat to provide a little more room for looking. And although it seems really difficult, really try to relax your muscles.
But in good news, there’s no place for the condom to go to get “lost”… your vagina is a closed space thanks to the cervix… so no worries!
Post # 11
See a doctor! you don’t want it to get infected. Plan B is an excellent idea, also.
Post # 12
This happened to a couple we know! She “lost” it for like 2 days- and ended up going to urgent care to get them to find it. I’m not sure where it was exactly and why she couldn’t reach it- just wanted to let you know that it has happened before and you aren’t the only one!
Post # 13
@hiding71:Stuff like this happens. It happened to me once. First of all ask your SO to leave the room and shut the door. Just lay back and relax.
Prop your head up with a pillow or two and assume the OBGYN position…legs far apart. Take your index finger and insert it and wiggle it around slowly to find the condom rim. Its there, you have to calm down relax and just do it.
Post # 14
Have you tried fishing it out yourself? The vagina is actually not very long and it stops at the cervix, so you should be able feel it and get it out with your fingers. If you can’t find it and you’re fairly sure it’s still in there, go see a doctor.
Post # 15
First of all, all of you guys are so awesome. I really appreciate the support and all the suggestions. (It definitely helps me feel a lot less embarrassed about it happening).
And end of the story…all is well. And just another reminder that my fiance is super awesome and I’m very glad I’m marrying him. 🙂 (Not to go into details, but with his assistance, it’s all good).
Post # 16
@hiding71: Amen! And might I just add, kudos for you for using a condom to begin with! 🙂 Glad it all worked out!