- 2 years ago
- Wedding: July 2017
Hello lovely Bees! This is my first post, although I’ve been lurking for 2 months. I have serious decision fatigue and I need impartial advice from ladies who know their stuff!
My SO recently told me to start designing my e-ring. I thought it would be easy… I have had the same “dream ring” in my mind for 20 years – an Emerald Cut diamond with two small trapezoids on the sides. Although I now want a pave band (instead of the plain platinum band I always imagined). 15 years ago I was married, and my ex husband surprised with me with a ring that was gorgeous (and I loved it every second of our 5-year marriage), but I’ve never let go of the desire for an emerald cut diamond ring.
Yesterday my mom came by and showed me a new fashion ring she got. It’s a halo set oval topaz. I thought it was very pretty and put it on my ring finger to get a good look. WOW, I was floored with how beautiful the oval was on my hand! I’ve never owned a ring with an oval stone (I’m not really a “round stone” kinda gal, I prefer straight edges), so I guess I never realized how long and lovely an oval makes fingers appear. It was feminine, graceful and romantic. I turned my hand around to show off the ring to my SO and mom and both of them exclaimed how beautiful it was on my hand.
So now I’m totally confused! I’ve spent the last 24 hours looking at oval rings online (like a crazy woman!). I can’t get the oval ring out of my mind. I can picture it on my hand, and I actually had dreams about it last night. I can’t picture what my Emerald Cut ring will look like on my hand anymore (no matter how hard I try).
I showed SO videos of diamonds on the James Allen website. First we watched a video of an Emerald Cut diamond. I love the way the steps flash light in an elegant, refined way. SO thought it was pretty. Then I showed him a video of an Oval diamond and he LOVED it. He kept commenting on how much it sparkled, and how it looked brilliant and it “popped”. I must admit, I was also enamored with the sparkle of it. 🙂
I can’t make up my mind. Part of me wants the Emerald Cut dream ring that I’ve lusted after my whole adult life. But part of me loves this oval idea. I guess I have two main hesitations… One is that I’ve never liked round gemstones. I’m just not into curved lines. I decorate with squares & rectangles. I love crisp geometric designs. I LOVE sharp angles. So I feel like getting an oval diamond is somehow a betrayal of who I am, and my personality. I feel like it won’t “fit”. My second hesitation is that I feel a bit saddened when I think about not finally getting the ring I’ve wanted for so many years. Part of me actually feels a bit like crying at the thought that I still won’t realize that dream (I know, I know, it’s silly of me). I finally have the perfect guy, and he’s happily wanting me to design any ring I want. Am I crazy to not get the Emerald Cut ring???
SO told me that maybe it’s time to let go of dreams I’ve had in the past because they might be holding me back from new ideas and opportunities that are meant to be in my future. He thinks my vision is clouded by the desires of an 18 year old me, and therefore I can’t move into the future life that’s waiting for me.
Either way, I’ll do a thin (2.2mm) platinum band with pave or shared prong diamonds in a 3/4 eternity. I also plan to add mismatched, whisper-thin bands in a stack after we’re married (maybe 3-4 bands ranging from 1mm – 2mm). The center diamond will be in a solitaire style (WITHOUT a halo. They’re absolutely gorgeous, but just not “me”.).
I wear ring size 8. My fingers are average length and a bit plump.
I’m attaching two stock photos that are the general idea of what I’m thinking for each style.
So Bees… what should I do?? 🙂