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Maybe you are more stressed than you realize? You might also be realizing that all the planning is done and this is it. I have been told by friends that are married they sometimes feel this way after the wedding... you put all this into it and all of a sudden its over. I am not trying to be negative or anything about saying "its over" because I know its a happy thing! You and your husband have a lot to look forward to but you have now finished a lot of what has occupied your time and emotions over the past year or how ever long you have been planning. Im sure it will pass though because when your friends and family start showing up, you have the rehearsal and you start getting dressed and hair and makeup and all i bet the excitement will flutter back up! Do you best to suppress any sad feelings and make time to laugh! do something fun with just you and your fiance- non wedding related!
I dont know first hand about this, but my cousin who got married 2 years ago got really sad and depressed a couple weeks before her wedding. She told me that she had spent all this time planing this huge event and now it was almost going to be over. She was afraid she was not going to remember any of it and she was also afraid something might go wrong on the big day. She would call me and start crying about it and all I could do was comfort her. She ended up going to see a therapist after the wedding because she was still sad about it. The therapist really helped her a lot, she doesnt go anymore. The doc got her involved in a lot of hobbies and she even volunteers her time twice a week to a battered womens shelter.
In my opinion (not a dr) I think she was so focused on the wedding for so long and planning it that it became her identity. Then, when it was all over, she didnt know what to do. She loves volunteering now and she does yoga and runs almost every day.
Not sure if this is exactly whats going on, but just one thing I experienced through my cousin.
I can empathize with both farmer's daughter and your cousin honeybear!
We are getting married this Saturday too (hey twin!!) and this experience has had many ups and downs. It almost feels like maybe you are having "labor pains". (Not a mother- yet) but I feel like the experience of planning and preping all year and then to know that your "baby" is coming is very similiar. I have been fidgety wondering what details I am forgeting and worrying about things that I can not control like the weather, other people etc.
Just know that you are not alone and ultimately this experience is a milestone to kick off a new chapter of your life. (At least that is what I am telling myself).
I hope the excitement of seeing friends and family will pick up your spirits!
@farmersdaughter, I don't have a solution for you but I, too, have been feeling very sad and depressed the past few weeks, and my wedding's in 2 wks. Maybe it's normal for us to feel like this even though we don't know the reason behind it.
hey date twin!!! I'm so very sorry you're feeling like this. :(
I really don't know too much of what to say - but i could sympathize that a lot might be stress. for me - it's actually the opposite - I'm feeling SO happy and elated that after 2 years of planning it's FINALLY hear like a HUGE sigh of relief that I don't have to think about it anymore! even though there's still stuff to be done.. :p
only thing I can tell you - IF it's possible...I won't even say take a full day - but take two hours for yourself. go get yourself something that you LOVE maybe a dairy queen blizzard or a glass of wine - and de-stress yourself. don't even THINK about the wedding.
then - write yourself a letter. one that - if you have to, you can burn or rip to shreds after - but that always used to help me (way before i even knew my husband) when I was feeling down or "out of it" about anything. get alll your feelings out - even if you DON'T think you're feeling them and just burn it after. it will seriously make a world of difference.
i hope you're feeling better and you're going to have a GORGEOUS wedding!!!
I was totally like this the week before my wedding....usually I can take everything in stride, but not that week.... Everything seemed like a HUGE deal and possibly the end of the world and I felt like I was constantly on the verge of tears. BUT....as soon as Saturday arrived and it was all happening, that went away. Because in the end, nothing but you and your soon-to-be husband matter all that much! It'll be okay, just keep taking deep breaths, eat, drink, rest, and Saturday will be here soon! Good luck!!
Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. Its definitely been coming and going in waves - all my bridesmaids are here now and its been so fun seeing everyone. I just feel like its all happening so fast and I'm having a hard time taking it all in!
Good luck! I'm not that emotional of a person and jeesh, before the wedding I was really stressed and the day of it turned to happiness and I donno what but I cried like the first 3 times I saw my husband on our wedding day. I shook a lot during the rehersal. Try to relax, have a glass of wine or two handy and just have fun with all these people who truly love you and want to start your marriage off in a fun and happy way.
@farmersdaughter - I would recommend either hot tea, or some red wine. Carve one our out of your day today. Get the beverage, and a Chelsea Handler book (or any other funny, lighthearted book), and find a quiet chair. Preferably near a window or something. Spend one hour away from the tv/computer/cellphone/other people. Deep breaths. You'll feel better, or at least a little more sane.
I felt a huge roller coaster of emotions the week before my wedding. I think it's natural. Your wedding is such an emotionally charged event, you feel any range of emotions. Honestly, a few days before mine, I was ridiculously pissed off. There was no reason for it - my MOH had just arrived, I was laying by the pool with a fruity cocktail in my hand, and I had just returned from the beach. But, for some reason I was just pissed. Apparently that's how my emotions manifested themselves.
Since you're wedding is the day after tomorrow (YAY!!!!!!! Can't wait to hear all about it!) - it should start to turn around. Just focus on the fact that in 2 days, you're marrying the man of your dreas. All the sadness and depression, and other emotions will just fade away.
Good luck!!!
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My wedding is next Saturday, and for some reason I'm feeling kind of depressed and emotional. I'm a pretty laid-back person, and its not like I'm feeling stressed out about last minute projects or anything. I know things will go well and I'm excited to be married. I'm not having doubts about my fiance, and there is nothing specific that I'm upset about...but for some reason, I'm just feeling down. The smallest things are making me upset, and that is not like me AT ALL. Did anyone else feel like this right before their wedding? How did you deal? I just want to enjoy this time because I know it'll go by so fast!