Post # 1
Four years ago, I was in a bike accident and sustained a head injury and damaged my hand really badly. I ended up off work for two months after surgery and hit a really bad depression…I was put on Cymbalta (antidepressant) and in the following two years gained forty pounds and turned to food rather than the gym for solace.
I ended up at 165 with no muscle mass, alot of fat on my small frame and barely recognized myself in the mirror. I lost the relationship that I was in at the time due to the depression, and about two years ago I managed to lose thirty pounds on WW and met my wonderful fiance. Since then the scale has crept back up to 145 and now the wedding is 10 months away and I want to get my weight down and fitness back before I walk down the aisle.
Last night my fiance and I were leaving to go to the gym for the first time and I LOST MY SH*T. I pretty much had an anxiety attack (crying and all), and my fiance managed to get me to talk through it and get to the conclusion that I’m scared to start excercising because it might not work. I seem to be like this with dieting too–I get about two weeks in and then LEAP off the wagon into a pile of margarine and Caramel Macchiatos. What is wrong with me? I have a clear goal, lots of resources at my fingertips yet I consistently sabotage my own efforts. Has anyone gone through this? Any fit ladies have any tips to stay motivated?
Post # 3
@BijouKitty: It takes time and focus to get through that initial withdrawal point; I went through that when I overhauled my diet 5 months ago, complete with a meltdown at the 2.5 week point. I had cut out everything resembling my comfort foods, and for health reasons so it wasn’t even like cheating was an option. I went through a super stressful week at work and literally broke down in tears because all I wanted in the world was a cupcake piled high with chocolate icing, and it was a no-no. But… I got through. You HAVE to find some other kind of coping mechanism, whether it’s meditation, taking a walk, exercising, sex, etc. to help focus that energy and emotion that was previously tied to food and/or sitting on your bum. I’ve now shed 15 pounds as a result and have healthier coping strategies at the ready and am the fittest I’ve ever been. It’s said that it takes 21 days to form/break a habit, so you just need to get past that first three weeks to make sticking with it easier.
Try making a monthly calendar with a goal for each day. Then, you can “x” out each day as your daily goal is reached. Try not to skip any days and you will be able to see the days pass with more healthy behaviors.
Post # 4
I used to feel sick with nerves walking into to gym and couldn’t explain why. Eventually I told m myself to try it for 15 mins and if I still didn’t feel ok I could leave… Anything isbetter than nothing. Think I walked out after 15 mins twice. Most of the time I enjoyed myself and after a while wanted to go. Could you try going for a month and then try to get a personal training session to spur you on. Wait until you’re ready for that though. The healthy eating will follow. I eat healthy when exercisingbecause I am working hard so don’t want to ruin it with a bad diet!!
Post # 5
@inspiredcreations: Thanks so much for your reply…I’m going to try to utilize some of your tips (and congratulations on your success!) I’m so going out to get a calendar…what a great idea.
I appreciate your candid comments (having a stranger tell you to think of something else to do rather than sitting on your bum is sobering AND effective!)
My fiance is Vegan and I’m almost there as well. I eat Vegan almost all of the time, but have really struggled with chicken (which is funny because before turning Vegan, I hated chicken).
I’m really inspired by your overhaul and relieved to hear that I’m not alone in this. Thanks again.
Post # 6
@phoebephoebo: Thanks! I’m so glad to hear that others have experienced the anxiety as well. I’m hoping that the increase in excercise will be followed by more sensible food choices. 🙂