(Closed) Emotional about weight loss/fitness…has anyone experienced this?

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BijouKitty:  Wow… For some reason what you posted really resonated with me. I’ve never been in a bad accident, but I used to be much more fit than I currently am. Now I’ve gained about 10lbs in the past year, and want  nothing more than to lose it.

I work out for about a good week to a month, and then I freak out. Suddenly everything becomes overwhelming and I absolutely can’t find time to go to the gym. I’ve always realized there really isn’t much more going on in my life, but I still feel like I just can’t go to the gym, and just want to eat my (super high-fat/high-carb) comfort foods. Maybe it doesn’t sound like it, but the idea of sabotaging myself is common in my life. I’ve done it with past relationships, I do it with my face, and I can see myself now doing it with my weight…

And rather than threadjack, because now I feel like I NEED to go talk to a therapist, I’m just going to say thank you and you just helped me see something in myself that I’ve never seen before.

I wish I had advice, but all I can say is be strong and you will work through this issue with the help of your supportive Fiance (he sounds wonderful).

Post # 4
1111 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve put on a good 15 lbs after losing a good 60.

Clearly I want to do something about it.

Even starting the first time was a bother, it feels like my anxiety comes from knowing how hard it was the first time, and not wanting to own up to having slipped.   I don’t want to compare my current fitness to my best fitness, even though my current is still better than my worst.  I’m at the point where I’d have to work super-hard to get to where I want to be, and I’m not interested in that.  I like sleeping and eating cake.

They say that if after a week or two you are diving back into the cake, then you’re probably taking too much of a black/white approach and need to grey it up a bit.

I know that every time I say “ok, once the snacks in the pantry are gone, I’m not buying any more”, I go and end up with another 5 bags of chips, 3 cans of nuts, some gummy worms, and all sorts of junk.  (OK, the almonds aren’t terrible, but I will eat a can in a day.)

Right now, my focus is on accepting that I am going to be hungry, as I’ve gotten used to not being hungry, and eating too much.  I feel like if I try diet and exercise at the same time, it’s too much, and bam, my pantry is full of junk.  

My fiance is trying to get me into exercising with him, and really, it’s not that appealing.  I know I want to lose weight, he knows I want to lose weight, he’s not at all pushy or rude about it, but for some reason, I’m not there yet, and dread the idea of exercising.

Another thing I think is that you see all of these people that have so much more to lose, and it looks like it’s just falling off of them, because they have so much to lose.  It’s overwhelming, knowing that at best you’re going to get 1, maybe 2 lbs a week, because you don’t have as much to lose.

Post # 7
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am so sorry you are feeling this. My advice- don’t give a fly. Throw out the scale and just try to work out to get to a goal. Mine was running a 5k, then a half, and then a full. During the 2 years of training, I am running more, toning more, and when I got on the scale I lost weight.

The same with dieting. I stopped counting calories and focused on being healthy. Most days I eat fruit and oatmeal for breakfast and a healthy, balanced lunch and dinner. When I want a starbucks coffee, I get one. But I get it with skim milk and half the number of pumps. When I want M&Ms, I eat a pack and spend a half an hour walking or running. 

If you aren’t always worried about the scale it is easier.

Post # 9
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@surkim:  “I like sleeping and eating cake.” LOL LOVE IT. Me too.

OP: I hear you. Losing weight is hard and I think our physical selves are always tied to our emotional selves. Its been helpful for me to write down and focus on small goals. For instance, instead of “I need to lose 60lbs so I am going to start going to the gym,” its, “this week I am going to do 30 minutes of cardio and eat a veggie before I eat a treat” or whatever. You can do! Take it slow…that is wise and you are more likely to have lasting results that way anyways.

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