- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I had an issue with three of my BMs…serious, valid issues that extended way beyond the wedding and affected our entire relationships. As of right now, I am on speaking terms with two of them again, one of which I resolved issues with this morning. However, there is a secret I, along with many others, have been keeping from her for about 3 years now.
She dated and was engaged to a guy for about two or three years altogether. He was in our circle of friends, but I never really got to know him, or to even really like him. He cheated on her several times, and every piece of jewelry he gave her was named after another girl he cheated with, including her engagement ring. They finally broke up a year ago when she discovered that he had cheated on her with at least 40 (no that’s not a typo) other women since joining the army. She dumped him while he was overseas in Afghanistan, and has suffered a serious backlash from people who thought she needed to “understand his needs” and “put him first because he is serving our country”.
I call bullshit, but, I digress.
Shortly before he left for boot camp, he cheated on her with two of our friends, who were dating, at the same time, one night. He tried to get in bed with their room mate, but she kicked him out of her room and locked him out. This is something that EVERYONE we know knows about, except for her. She cut most of us out of her life for a long time, so, a reason to tell her never really came up. I asked Fiance if he thought I should tell her, but he said if she is not with the guy, and never will be again, I probably should just leave it in the past. My concern, however, is that she is still best friends with one of the friends he cheated with, and when I see them together, I can barely stomach it. This person acts like they are so much more mature and together than everyone else, and it disgusts me. They laughed at her before and after it happened.
I know she has moved on with her life, and I don’t want to upset her, but I also think she should know how much of a snake in the grass one of her best friends is.