- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I guess I’ll give some back story. I’m 25, my mom had me at 16 so my grandmother helped raise always i was legally emancipated at 15 though and raised myself from then. I am asocial and have agoraphobia so I always avoid leaving my comfort zone so I often host get togethers, my grandmother knows this, I told her about a year ago. I have been with FI for 2 years. 6 months into our relationship I became pregnant, my grandmother seemed happy, I told her we were moving into a bigger place in town and not to worry about us. We had to wait 3 months to move because we were coming up with money for the deposit. A month after I tell her our plans she calls and tells us how she moved into the same complex and how we need to move in there too… Uh yeah that was our plan. I like to keep a somewhat distance between my home and other people so I don’t feel obligated to always see them, like I said I am asocial. We still move like we planned and let her know after the baby is born that no one can knock on the door because our dogs bark and it wakes the baby, she came over often, unannounced with no care to my request. I have hosted every holiday here since may 2011 and always make sure she is included. FI’s family is always invited as well. They are very loving people a little loud due to cultural differences but they’ve never been rude or mean to anyone in my family and have tried to connect with my grandmother. My grandma on the other hand will make loud remarks right in front of them (thank god they are louder and didn’t hear) how they’re inbred, nasty, etc. (they are city people btw. Nothing close to any thing resembling inbreeding) after these remarks she sits in the corner with her husband whispering to him and after they eat promptly leave without acknowledging FIs family at all. I’ve tried speaking to her and she just says they are nasty People. I have gone to her home alone and even hosted events just for her to know she’s included. I thought all of this was oVer. when she came over for thanksgiving I was cooking and it was hectic. She stands by me and the first thing she says is “if I’m in the way ill just leave” um well standing right next to me as I’m trying to baste a turkey is in the way, of course I didn’t say that, I just smiled and said “you’re fine” she goes and sits in the corner. Doesn’t say anything to anyone but her husband. Keeps going in and outside. I’m frantically trying to get dinner together so I am not talking to anyone right now and everyone else seems to understand. i look up and her husband is glaring me down, they go outside for a few minutes and she comes back in, says they’re leaving and leaves, dinner was being set at this point. I went into the room in tears. FIs family is really starting to dislike her and my family doesn’t care for her either. I can’t just stop including her so I donew know what to do. No one wants to sit by her and she feels she should have all of the MOTB duties when I don’t believe she should. She wants front row at ceremony etc. I honestly want to elope I’m so overwhelmed and I have no idea what to do. I’m sorry this is so long. Thank you for taking time to read.