(Closed) Emotional rant…I realize I am overreacting

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

stop talking to her about your wedding plans!!!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

and don’t apologize- i’d be pissed as hell.  luckily, it sounds like none of the people you are friends with care for her very much so they will only be privvy to your wonderful wedding. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Be both- flattered and angry. And don’t share any more details with her.

Tell her that you want to have your wedding be unique and although you are flattered that she likes your ideas, you wan6t to maintain some individuality so won’t be able to discuss weddings with her any longer.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What a psycho creep! Eeeks what is her problem! I would have serious issues with all these “coincidences” my advice would be to give her bad advice. Tell her you changed your mind on your dress and show her another one. The colors you chose…now you think they are all wrong. Just tell her your plans have changed. She’s obviously crazy so she’ll probably want to copy your “new” wedding. How weird is that.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just start telling her how FLATTERED you are that she finds so many of your ideas useful. Kill her with kindness, and don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing that she got to you.  In the meantime, don’t discuss serious wedding stuff with her…or make up ridiculous and ugly things as you go along, maybe she’ll steal THOSE too! 🙂  And it is true, however annoying it may be, imitation IS the best form of flattery!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree kill her with kindness but don’t say anything else about wedding stuff…she is also sounding like a serial stalker in the making.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

This all sounds very single while female-ish. I would be SO mad. My sister is planning her wedding and she has a friend that is getting married just a month before her and seems to be copying all of her ideas. They are good friends though and in eachothers weddings so it’s harder to keep her plans to herself. As others have advised, I would just keep my mouth shut from here on out. I know it’s tough when she approaches you and asks about your wedding but I would just pretend I was being totally slack and haven’t planned a thing. You have every right to be upset..hopefully she will chill out and come up with some ideas of her own! Good luck :o)

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

sorry, typo…I meant single whiTe female-ish. haha

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

That’s so strange. I assume if you don’t like her and you’re not actually friends, then you won’t have any guest overlap so don’t need to worry too much about being unique (there’s only so much “uniqueness” a wedding can have anyway, no matter how hard we brides might try!). So I’d be a bit cranky, a bit flattered, but mostly I think I’d just feel sorry for her. She may have a massive budget but she obviously has no creativity or girlfriends to help her plan, which is pretty sad.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree that you need to stop talking about YOUR wedding plans.  I think this girl is jealous of you–if not, why does everything have to be the same or like the ring, the same but bigger.  I hate to be a conspiracy theorist, but do you have similar friends?  Her setting the date on the same day may be a way to have friends have to choose between weddings.  She sounds like trouble to me.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

SHE IS WEIRD, UNORIGINAL, NOSEY, TACKY, RUDE.

you need to stop talking to her about your wedding plans.

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