The Name Change thing seems to be HUGE in some countries vs others.
Here in Canada it isn’t quite a big deal, as one can use whatever name they wish, as long as it isn’t for fraudulent / illegal purposes.
Consequently, women for decades have been finding ways thru this dilemma…
1- Keep your maiden name entirely
2- Follow tradition and take his surname
3- Follow traiditonal etiquette and take his surname, but keep your maiden name as your middle name
4- Take a Hyphenated Version (or you can BOTH do it)
5- Or both take on a new name… be it made up from something of both your pre-wedding names, or something totally new
Truth is change your name or not… at some point in time you will be known as Mrs XYZ (his last name) because being married, and that the more traditonal route, people are going to assume that.
My first marriage (circa 1980) I kept my Maiden Name. But it was hardly my only name. I was known socially as Mrs XYZ (his last name… and also the surname of our children)… but then again when we met people, who only knew me, then he was assumed to be Mr ABC.
Honestly, as a couple, you both get quite used to this whole thing.
I also have many friends who have Professional Names (actors, writers, etc) and so infact in some instances they are known by 3 or 4 names… just depends which “social circle” they are in at any one time.
Doesn’t phase em either.
What you do is your own choice (and his)… no one else’s. So do whatever you are most comfy with.
And BTW, nothing says you have to do it all at once or right away… you may have to pay a fee to change it later, but it can still be done.
Hope this helps,