Post # 1
That last week or two before the wedding can be really tough, am I right? I feel like I have so many emotions and they are all over the place.
I am overwhelmed with joy and happiness from all the support from our families. And I am ecstatic to finally be marrying FI so soon!!! I am thrilled that those who can be with us will be there at our wedding.
At the same time, I am pretty disappointed. Of the 250 invited, we have 130 guests coming. Quite a few are from out of state so I get it, although I did not expect our guest count to be this low at all, I was thinking about 175. Still, we’ll save more money for the bar and have a great time with everyone, having more time for each quest who is there. It’s just hard when the rsvp date was 4 weeks ago and we still get calls with people saying now so and so can come and now so and so can’t come. That will change Monday when our final count is due for catering!
I feel bad also for some friends who are coming from out of town. Originally a group of 6 was coming, reserved a suite for 6, and now only 2 are coming because other people flaked out (1 had what I would call a legitimate reason, the other 3 just changed their minds after rsvping yes…). So I feel bad for those folks. We know they are making a huge effort to come out so I am thinking to send them room service the night before our wedding.
On top of all this, we keep having to re-arrange things, and we have a lot to do now the week before our wedding. It’s a fairly stressful time. Although in the scheme of things, of what is possible in this world, it’s really not a tragedy that we have a lot to do for one week. We’ll be super okay.
Just looking to share what’s going on, trying to keep my head clear as I can, and commiserate if anyone wants to. Thanks bees. It has been so awesome having all of your support through this process, and also being able to lend a word here and there! 🙂
Post # 2
nawella: As usual, I can relate 110%. We invited between 100 and 150 (including plus-ones) and our final guest count is exactly 50. We knew it would be low due to the nature of the destination wedding, but we definitely expected higher numbers. And we’ve also been dealing with people changing their minds at the last minute, either asking to bring a guest after RSVPing for one or dropping out altogether – my poor fiance had a groomsman flake out on him two days ago. It’s always hurtful when you find out that you’re more invested in a relationship than the other party.
But on the bright side, after months of planning and hard work, we’ve just got one last little push until one of the most exciting and wonderful days of our lives! Because no matter what goes down, rain or shine, DIY decor or bare-bones venue, we will end the day married to the best guys we know. The people who really and truly matter will be there for us, in person or in spirit, and then we get to start a crazy, amazing new chapter: our very own family. So hang tight! I definitely find it helpful to vent about my frustrations too (my poor MOH has been a Godsend), but at the end of the day we’re really pretty lucky 🙂
Post # 3
kgba: Man, yeah it’s tough finding this stuff out about relationships! But you are absolutely right, at the end of the day, all that matters is that we get married and start a life together 🙂 the rest is extra!
Another thing for us there is so much going on in our families, so many milestones- retirements, new children, anniversaries, and so on. My sisters are going to college and grad school the day after our wedding and they have been really annoyed with me, even though the date for our wedding was set a year before they even knew if they’d be going. And it’s really random that their schools start at this time, it could have been any weekend in August or September. There’s not much I could have done. They’re upset that people aren’t going to notice that they are beginning school because of our wedding. (They did have graduation parties this past spring.) Honestly, I think it’s just the opposite. I think lots of people will notice and it will be a great opportunity to see the extended family and talk about it with them! FI and I are trying to be the bigger people by asking the DJ to make an announcement congratulating everyone who has had these great milestones, including my sisters. I hope it helps. I feel like I have done all I can. Right now I could be upset that I too am sharing the day with them, with all of our milestones, on my ONLY wedding day, but I’m not going to do that, I’m just going to share all the joy with everyone. This is a time to be happy about happy things!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
nawella: Well, the people you really want to come will be there, on the bright side! Also, sending the two people a really nice welcome bag and a room-service breakfast would be really nice, I think 🙂
Post # 5
laceydoilies: You are so right! They will definitely have nice welcome bags and some kind of room service 🙂 and that is so true, the people who need to be there will be there!