Emotional Train Wreck for Thanksgiving Week

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 1995

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Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you just need to focus on the immediate issue: meeting his family and getting proposed to.  Forget about registering, forget about ventrilloquism, forget about engagement pictures, forget about everything else.  You’re causing a lot of extra stress unnecessarily,  As for your FMIL, you do need to toughen up, stand your ground, and defend yourself.  There are ways of politely telling her to back off. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - The Loft Reception Center

@Jacquelinesc84:  The best way I’ve found of dealing with my Future Mother in Law is to plan a movie date (tons out over Thanksgiving) and lunch. No talking during the movie and then you have something to discuss after that’s not going to be a sore spot. Still I know it can be really hard.

Also, make a list of the things that need to be done and check them off one by one. I’m guessing you’ll find that it won’t be as big as you think!

And about the engagement pictures, if you’re not ready to do that it can be put off a bit. Maybe he just wants to remember the proposal (which I think is a great idea) and you can have a second picture session later that you can be more prepared for. I understand how hard long distance can be for planning things like this, I’m in the same boat! Just remember that in 10 years when you look back on those pictures with your kids you won’t be worrying about what you were wearing, but remembering one of the best days of your life: The day you got engaged to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

For starters, decline the ventriloquism routine.  That was presumptious of his Pastor!!  You can politely decline and be firm.

I agree, skip the pic and the registering for now.  You CAN decrease this list, you just need to choose to do so.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Jacquelinesc84:  do you drink…if not maybe you should start…ha! na jk, wow thats a lot to deal with. just take everything one thing at a time, find a cute out fit or 2 or 3, you want to be yoursef in Ephotos anyway…dont take crap from his mom, do the “im not feeling well then lock your self in the bathroom if it comes to that (worked for me once) it will all work out! yay on the up coming engagmeet!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh my gosh please say that you’re going to have some sort of ventriloquism at your wedding. 

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