Emotionally Drained- Sister Issues, Long Vent

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble

You’re doing what’s best for her. Too bad she doesn’t see it. Same with ya’lls father.

Honestly, next time she gets nasty, I’d tell her to get a damned job, hire a lawyer, and challenge your mothers will. If she wins, they’ll give her the money. If she doesn’t, she’ll have had the legal system tell her NO, and she’ll have to suck it up.

I personally would have cut her out by now, and found someone else to take control of her portion. But, your mom thought you were the best for this, and she trusted that you would handle it.

At this point, I wouldn’t give your sister anything. A car IS a luxury, for those that WORK to get the things they want. Tell her if she’ll get a job, and stay there at least 3 months, and it’s a FULL TIME POSITION, which she can prove with a empolyer given schedule AND pay stubs indicating full time, with no call outs, that you will ASSIST in getting the car fixed. As in, she pays a portion, and you “help” with the rest.

I’d start doing contracts, and make loans. This way, she learns the REALLY hard way about life.

Post # 4
104 posts
Blushing bee

as much as you hate your sister, and I agree that her choices suck, I think that she is entitled to some of the money. I’m trying to imagine her viewpoint, and it really sucks to feel left out like that. I don’t think that her choices in life have anything to do with how much she deserves the money. especially because she was close to your mother (would your mother want have wanted her to have the money?)

certainly, your dad does not have to (and shouldnt have to!) finance her boyfriend/his mom living in the house. I see your mom’s estate as a totally different issue. it’s harsh to completely cut her out because she hasn’t made great choices 

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