- 3 years ago
I have to go way back in order to give you the full effect. My sister who is 3 years younger than me has always been a “problem” child. When she was younger, she was always a little mischevious, but never totally wild. Well this continued throughout her school age years. She would frequently get caught skipping class, stealing things, and even dropped out of high school with only a year and a half to go. She has yet to get her GED (she would have graduated in 2010). She has only ever had two jobs in her lifetime, both she only worked for about 4 months. She is currently unemployed.
My sister was very close with my mother and had a very turbulent relationship with my father (two parent household). My mother passed away in November of 2010. This was obviously hard for all of us. Since my parents were technically divorced (long story short, they got divorced, got back together, but never remarried), my sister and I inherited all of my mother’s estate. However, I am the trustee of my sister’s portion, and she only has access to these funds via myself, if i deem necessary. She will have full access to the trust when she turns 30 (just about 8 years).
Anyway, my dad is in the process of selling the house we lived in- he is currently renting a house about 20 miles away. My sister is living in our family house. My dad is still paying for all utilities since my sister doesn’t have a job (her trust money is strictly not to be used for living expenses). My sister just text me a little while ago asking for money from her trust to fix her car. I told her no, and to get a job. She then freaked out, called me a piece of shit, says no one ever helps her, blah blah blah. So I explained to her that we do help her, as my dad is paying for her to LIVE and that a car is a luxury, and if she wants it fixed, she needs to get a job. She proceeded to exclaim that I’ve had everything handed to me, which couldnt’ be further from the truth. She invited her boyfriend who’s been in and out of jail 3 times and his unemployed mother to live in the house. Now my dad is paying for all 3 of them to live there. We have filed an eviction notice and they will be out by the end of the month- all 3 of them.
She’s had every opportunity I’ve had, she just made the wrong choice. I’m in graduate school. During undergrad I worked 3 jobs and went to school full time to support myself. My dad helped me here and there along the way because I was making an EFFORT, which she refuses to do.
I am so fed up. She doens’t get it. One day, she’s going to really need us but we won’t be around because she’s pushed us away. It hurts me so bad. I wish I could just shake her and make her snap out of it. My mother would be so ashamed of her. I know there’s nothing I can do, and it drives me crazy. I’ve tried to reach out to her so many times, but she only ever responds when she needs money. I asked her to be a bridesmaid of mine and didn’t even get a response. I don’t know if I’m going to even invite her to my wedding. My FI and I are moving about 5 hours south in two weeks, we’re having a going away party this weekend, I know she won’t come to that. She doesn’t even come to family Christmas anymore. She didn’t wish me a Happy Birthday five days ago.
She has her whole life ahead of her and she’s making so many poor choices.
Sorry for the long post, just needed to vent.