- 6 years ago
… to Surviving the “Happiest” Time of Her Life is an AMAZING book.
Fiance and I got engaged last month, and I’m not going to lie… I’ve been going back and forth between being thrilled and terrified of getting married. Don’t get me wrong, Fiance is definitely the man for me, but we’re far from perfect and the thought of being permanently tied to him kind of threw me off.
So I started a search. It began with Google and the phrase “cold feet.” It was so weird that I was typing this in my search bar – me! With cold feet! I never could have imagined that I would be considering NOT marrying my Fiance. And yet, here I was. My search led to Dr. Allison Moir-Smith and this wonderful book.
I was so impatient to start reading that I immediately purchased it off of iTunes and got down to business, and within two days the book was read, highlighted, and notes were taken… and I felt okay. I finally understood why I was so scared, anxious, and worried about marriage. It has nothing to do with Fiance or my marrying him – I realized that I was just SO afraid of losing my identity, and thankfully, this is totally normal.
The book delves into the author’s three-step process of shifting from Single Girl to Married Woman : EBB (Ending, Bridging, Beginning), and helps you figure out what specificially your concerns are and how to best handle these changes, as well as what feelings you can expect to encounter throughout your engagement and the first year of your marriage. The main message from the book is to FEEL your feelings, and embrace them – no questions asked.
If anyone isn’t feeling quite as happy as you thought you’d be about getting engaged, or you’re (like me) on a constant roller coaster of up and down’s – this book is for you.
Has anyone else read this? And how has it helped you to cope with the upcoming changes of getting married?