(Closed) Encore African-American Brides-to-be (and waiters) are you out there?

posted 8 years ago in African-American
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am not an encore bride but I will be marrying an encore groom =)

We both have children but we will not be incorporating them into the wedding in any way. We are having a wedding but it will just be for the two of us (DW to Jamaica). We are not incorporating any African traditions into our ceremony. We are having a “traditional” ceremony in a non-traditional setting. My hair will be in micros if that counts =)

I think the second dress you posted would look FABULOUS in a shorter length.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i’ve been engaged a few times if that counts and the only thing i want to incorporate is the tasting of the elements (a yoruban tradition) … i am not too into the other truly afrocentric things..

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

91011, I’m waiting and I’m also in the bay area… oh yea, and I’m encore. lol… I have children and so does my SO. Together we have 4, but only my 2 live with us full-time.

I’m doubtful on incorporating any African traditions into our wedding. At my 1st wedding, we jumped the broom which is more of an African-American tradition, I believe. I don’t really want to do that this time around, but we’ll see.

I love the second dress you posted with the lace bolero jacket! Really cute! My son’s bio-father’s family is Yoruba. They did a clothing change for his aunt’s wedding. She wore this HUGE white gown and then changed to the traditional wear, as did her husband (from a tux). It’s a cool way to incorporate the culture. That wedding was long too! I didn’t go to it, but my son’s grandmother did force me to watch all nine hours of the wedding video. And that wasn’t even ALL of the wedding either as the party went on, and on, and on… and on… (now THAT part, we’ll probably incorporate into our wedding! lol)

Here is some info on the “Tasting of the Elements:” The Yoruba Ceremony involves tasting four elements which illustrates the experiences that a couple is expected to go through during their marriage.  The elements include bitter, sweet, sour and hot.  Water is used to cleanse the palate and represent a way of moving forward.  The ceremony is slated before the bride and groom exchange their vows and begins with the officiant explaining the basis for the ritual.  The groom feeds the bride the first elements and bride reciprocates.  As the bride and groom taste each item, the officiant will explain the types of issues may arise that represent that particular flavor.  After each taste, the couple cleanses their palate with water.  For the tasting ceremony you can choose your own elements, some of the popular ones include cayenne pepper, lemon, honey and vinegar.  These represent the bitter, the hot, the sour and sweet times of marriage. 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I like all of it, but I think her headwrap is a little distracting. I wish we could see the back of the dress!

A friend and her husband wore Indian outfits (white with gold stiching). They were actually very similar to African style outfits, with the long tunic for the man and pants and subtle embrodery around the collar (wish I had pics to share). That might be another way to go if you can’t find the African-inspired look you’re going for.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

it looks like it’s a sweetheart neckline made of an almost silvery shantung silk material in a sheath shape with a detachable train (that’s what i see at least)

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Late to this thread…but I am an encore bride.

Therez Fleetwood has some amazing designs. A good mix of tradition with traditional. Love the tasting ceremony idea, too. Remember just because we are encore does not mean we have to be different.

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