Encore Bride with the same Encore Groom…..

posted 2 years ago in Encore
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Huh?

What do you mean if he does not want to re-marry you? And also what do you mean about the few months left to decide? You are either getting married or you aren’t. Color me confuzzled.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m confused as well.  Are you planning to marry on NYE or just thinking about it, trying to decide?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Maybe you should take your around the world trip and consider whether you really want to get remarried while you are on it. Taking some time to go exploring would probably be good for you and your confidence, and should also show you if he is committed enough to deal with you being gone for a month or two.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Penang1885:  This is not bad advice! It might be hard for you to be objective when you’re seeing him all the time.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

prahajess:  Yes, given they only got divorced last year I doubt she has had time to really process things. I think taking some time apart to do something fun and different would be good for her and ultimately the relationship if she decides to go back.

There should be no hurry for her to rush back into marriage. And frankly, given his cheating ways I think he deserves to be left hanging for a little bit rather than being taken back straight away. If he is genuinely sorry and cares about her as much as he says, then he should be willing to wait for as long as she needs to feel comfortable again. Pushing for a quick remarriage just seems a little off, to me.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Penang1885:  Exactly! I know I wouldn’t be over my broken heart within this time frame– much less ready to re-commit to the heartbreaker! That’s a lot to deal with.

Tread carefully, OP!!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It appears that your husband only wants you back because his second marriage didn’t last. 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 

Penang1885:  A+ advice. OP, get out there and see the world–if he really wants to fix the relationship, he’ll be waiting for you when you get back!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with the other posters, go out and see the world!  If he wants to get back together he will wait for you.  Take some time for yourself and do what makes you happy.  You may be rushing into getting back together with him because he is familiar and thats comforting.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Stanley House Inn

 

bmo88:  It’s a ridiculous spam thing. It is on so many forums now 🙁

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