Much different this time.
First wedding was the big poufy dress, hundreds of friends and family, all the traditional stuff, but we were young, didn’t have a lot of money and only planned it in 3 months, cutting a lot of corners. In retrospect, man that was one cheesy, low budget wedding that would classify as tacky even (embarrassing as it is to admit).
I had family help and it ended up being potluck (we ran out of food), a friend as a DJ that sucked so bad (speakers tweaking all night, pronouced our names wrong, played songs I had not to play, etc), decor was cheap (think paper streamers, balloons, cheap flowers, rented arch that got bent before the ceremony. I never got to go around to everyone at the reception, forgot the basket of favors under the table. Even the thank you cards did not go out as I was pregnant and my ex forgot to mail them and found them under his truck seat and admitted he threw them away out of embarassment (and for me not to find out). I was mortified. Didn’t even get a honeymoon as we did not have the money and despite all his promises it never happened in 10 years.
This one is an encore for both of us. This time its just family and friends we are close to (only 50-60), elegant, classy but fun for everyone. The venue comes with a wedding planner so that helps, planning for a great dj and photographer this time, having a first look so we can take as many pictures as we can before so people don’t wait on us, there’s a timeline this time, seated dinner. FI is helping me on all aspects and we are just enjoying every little bit as we go. We just made sure that we didn’t have any of the same elements as our firsts – different colors, different flowers, no bridal party, walking ourselves down together, including the guests in the ceremony, group picture with all the guests after ceremony, cocktail hour, seated dinner, song requests on RSVP so everyone can hear something they like, photobooth for guest book, mad libs RSVP and advice libs at reception, Mission Impossible game with each table, shoe game, dancing contests, I Spy’s, including guests in every aspect all day long. I”m personalizing the escort cards with notes to each person inside, gift bags in hotel rooms for guests staying there, already have my thank you notes printed up and ready to write out.
I just want everyone to feel a part of our day because they are a part of our lives and I want to thank them for that.
I’m definitely preplanning as much as I can this time and budgeting as I go so it’s not at last minute. I want to enjoy it this time.