Weddingbee boards

This is something that has sparked a few discussions with T and I.  He KNOWS I am a great party planner and that I have familial resources I can utilize who are even better at it than I am.  I believe I need five months because 1)I have a home which is a lease purchase and I need to get things in order before I move..have a 3 mos clause to break the contract and I had it written into the contract.  2)we'll be merging 2 households which takes a bit of work, and 3)I want to have a decent window to plan things including finalizing which dress I want.

Our engagimoon got royally screwed up a week and a half ago and we're gonna attempt it again except this time he will surprise me (still haven't seen the ring yet though).  My b'day is at the end of the month so ????

Anyhow, he wants us to get married this year but if I don't have the time frame window I prefer, it simply will have to wait until spring 2010.

I may be the longest engaged encore bride  and hostess here ever if this keeps up!

Well I will probably have either the shortest or the longest engagement of any encore here!  It will be either six/five months or nine or more months.

I just want it right...yes right.  And enjoy it all.  Every damn second of it.  And that's been my request to T.  He understands it, but does know that I can pull off a party at a days' notice..heck years and years ago (about 10) I had a wedding reception at my old home (was on a golfcourse) for two friends of mine on a very tight budget.  It was gorgeous.  They still loved it to this day.  Pulled it off with the help of sisterBelle  (yes, we're GRITS...girls raised in the south) and it was absolutely southern elegance! 

So I just want some breather room.  Room to adequately take care of the home situation since we're merging two households, and then room enough to plan and UTTERLY enjoy being a bride and not confusing the two situations.

What alot of you don't know about me is that I hate moving.  I truly do.  Why you might ask?  Well when my son and I moved into this cute little house 2 years ago this summer, the moving van CARRYING MY FURNITURE was smashed into by a drunk driver.  Six months was spent in litigation and on the day I was supposed to be oh so happy moving into this cute house, I instead spent it crying, sitting on the curb in front of the house, just sobbing as the police and fire people (after they hauled the moving van to the house) went thru what was not damaged to what was utterly destroyed.  So there..you now know why I hate moving.

So I will NOT confuse the two.  Wedding planning and moving.  In fact, my doctor suggested when we do move again, that I take (that day only) a mild relaxant so I won't stress about it...it was THAT stressful before.

Sounds lovely  Querida!  a perfect 10 wedding..heck that COULD be your theme!  Perfect 10!

Yep.  the merging of households.  The only furniture issue that needs to be "tweaked" are the dark cinnamon colored leather couches T has in his keeping room.  To me, they're a deepest orange and that does not go with any color scheme I will ever design..sorry. 

Oh Querida it got MORE than messed up..so bad that T had to consult a lawyer, and the booking agency and I wound up with a horrid rash on top of things from the hotels' complimentary robes..yep.  That really happened.  I recanted the ugly tale on my blog, and the sitch was also reported on a travel site too.  Oh well..we are most likely going to be refunded 100 percent of the monies and the travel site (which is being awesome) is going to give us a trip on the house! 

I think it will probably fall into the five to six month thing..unless when I get the ring is in the summer..then it will be a waiting period as I am not getting married in winter due to icy travel and the fact my older relatives absolutely would not get behind a wheel to muchless drive to the airport to even fly out!