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Hyphenating.  After 3 years of fighting to get my maiden name back the last time and having no legal last name for that duration (don't ask--divorce decree oversight), I figured I am more able to at least have legal identification in one, both, or a hyophenated version of a last name.  While the combination does not roll off the tongue very eloquently (both are one syllable surnames), that's my plan :)

My FI really wants me to take his name.  He was upset when I told him I wasn't sure I would change it.  He came up with a great idea.  I do not have a middle name, so I am going to legally make my maiden name my MI when I change my last name.  I have grown very fond of the idea.  Hyphenating seems to be a pain.  It is too long.  I know plenty of women who started out hyphenating only to eventually drop the maiden name. 

This is still a debate in our family :/ I have a little girl with my ex, but he's been AWOL as a father since before her birth really. I didn't leave him until after she was born, but he never did anything for her before or after her birth. My fiance will be adopting her after we get married, so socially she and I go by his last name, though we legally share her father's last name.

Also, since she will be adopted by her dad, and legally sever ties with her father, it has made me think about doing the same. After we discussed my fiance adopting my daughter, I asked my dad if he would go through an adult adoption with me, which would allow me to take his name, and put his name on my birth certificate.

I want to legally tack on my dad's last name to my ex's last name following the adult adoption being finalized, but continue to use my fiance's last name socially up until my daughter's last name can be legally changed as well. When her adoption is finalized I plan to drop my ex's last name and my new 'maiden' last name, and take my fiance's last name legally. Then we will all share a last name.

My fiance wants me to go through the adoption with my dad, but when we get married, legally change my last name to his, and skip legally using my dad's completely. He doesn't think there will be any problem with my daughter and I having different last names legally as long as socially we still both go by his.

Not sure what compromise we will work out :/

i decided to change my last name to his because right now i have my maiden name, then my kids have their dads, and now my fiance is in the pictures! so imagine that mailbox three last names? no way!  besides, my last name is a person's name so i'm dying to get it off !