(Closed) encouragement needed!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh boy. That’s awful, I’m so sorry. First, I think you need to sit down with your mom and talk about this honestly and openly with her. I’m sure she hasn’t said anything because she’s embarassed and possibly ashamed of the situation. You have every right to be angry with her, but I think you need to figure out A) Where this money went and does she need help (ie money management classes or a financial advisor, or some sort of counselling), and B) Where can you trim back your budget for things you haven’t booked and made deposits on just yet. Do not go into debt over your wedding! Can FI’s family help if you need a bit of help?

Post # 5
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

So then maybe it’s a blessing she spent the money and therefore, gets no say in what happens with the wedding. Try to think of it that way.

Post # 6
Member
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with bakerella.  Maybe this is a blessing in disguise:)  Talk with your FI and see what money y’all can pull together to host the wedding.  Make sure you can cover the cost of the contracts that are already signed and future contracts.  If you can’t cover those costs talk with the venues and tell them your story, see if they will let you out of the contract with only the deposit being lost.  Search through the classifieds and see what you can get for cheap.  There is nothing wrong with using anything second hand and no one will know unless you tell them:)  Good luck and I’m sure your wedding will be great!!!!

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