- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Although I would like to lose weight before the wedding, I would be comfortable at my current size (about a size 12-14). FI would also like to lose weight before the wedding.
He doesn’t talk about it much, but every now and then, I realize how self-conscious he is about his weight. Just this week, we were looking at pictures of tuxes and he pointed out one that he liked and I thought was pretty awesome too. I asked him with a big smile if that’s what he was going to look like when I married him. I meant if that’s the suit he’d be wearing and his response was something like he doubted he could lose that much weight before the wedding and he looked all freaked out that I wanted him to look like one of the models. I told him that I’d meant the suit and I thought he was a total cutie no matter what.
His weight has NEVER been an issue for me – I love him regardless of his size and I’ve told him that whenever it comes up in conversation, but I don’t make a big deal of it otherwise.
He’s obviously self-conscious about this and I’d like to help him out. We don’t live together, but have dinner together at least a few days a week, so I’ve started cooking healthier meals. I’ve also suggested we get out and be more active, which he generally goes along with quite willingly. I’m trying to tell him that this is so I can lose weight before the wedding (which wouldn’t be a bad thing), so he doesn’t think I’m doing this just so HE loses weight.
Any other suggestions on how to be encouraging, but not draw attention to the issue?