- 6 years ago
Hi bees, where can i start? Gosh, i think i have reached a point where i just want to jump off a bridge and kill myself! I’ve been with my fiance almost 6 years, we will be marrying a week before our 6 year anniversary. It’s 3 months before the wedding and NOTHING has gotten done besides my dress, and the date being set. We have put down money for our recepetion hall but nothing else has been prepared. But this is not even the problem. The problem is i just don’t feel happy anymore.
My fiance has lied MANY times before, he hasn’t recently but in past years he would lie ALOT, mainly because he was very young and immature, still is though, its just a little better now.One of the problems i have with him right now is him taking his family’s side ALL the time. He helps them out a little too much financially to the point i think they take advantage of him. I have gotten to the point where i have actually threatned to leave if he doesn’t change and start standing up for me. I tell him that if he would rather spend money on his parents rather than our wedding bills, than i don’t want to be with him. And what does he do? Give them more money a few days later!! He really doesn’t take me seriously at all when i say i will leave. His family seems to be his priority rather than the wedding and i.
HIs family is very rude, he has 2 brothers, no sisters thank god! But one of his brothers has called me a slut, a B*@*** without having met me!! It happened through the phone, where he screamed it out. When i go over the brother’s girlfriends ignore me as if i were a complete invisible person, they are very rude. Not to mention the mom. WOW…i actually trusted her and told her about our problems and she comes back at me saying that if we broke up it would be all my fault, and that she was outraged that i made her son spend so much money for nothing…!!!and that she didn’t know what to think of me anymore, that she couldn’t help me. What does my fiance say to this? That its my fault! That its my fault for bringing her into it, which is true, BAD BAD mistake, but that doesn’t mean she had to be so rude about it!
His family is bankrupt, and because of that my fiance is making me live in their house so that he can help them. There is a smaller room in the backyard where we would be living, but its 3 months before the wedding and he hasn’t even started fixing it! We fight everyday, i can’t communicate with him, he curses, mocks me, and has told me to shut the f**! and stop crying about everything. I just can’t take it anymore, but why haven’t i left you ask?
I’m scared of having wasted 6 years of my life for nothing. I truly loved him at some point, with all my heart, but now i don’t know. I’m not excited to do anything for the wedding, and when i tried on my wedding dress i just couldn’t care less about it! I put so much time, love, and effort that i’m scared it will go to waste. I love him still, but i’m not happy..Please help me!!