(Closed) Ending My Engagement ….

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2128 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

It sounds like you’re making the absolute right decision. I wish you all the luck and happiness in the future!

Post # 4
Member
511 posts
Busy bee

I send strength to you with all my telopathic abilities!!

Seriously. This is a rough situation, one with no clear cut borders, which is what makes it so tough. But you are doing the right thing. And I wish you the best and hope you get to eat plenty of chocolate/candy/filet mignon (or whatever strikes your fancy).

Post # 5
Member
1692 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@winstonchurchill: +1

Good for you for realizing that you deserve more than this.  There is better out there, you best believe it.

Post # 6
Member
61 posts
Worker bee

Look. From what you are saying it sounds like you are doing the right thing. But you think you have given it enough time. I’m not encouraging you to stay under these circumstances. But do you think he is just going through a rough patch. Do you that it would be worth having a serious talk with him about it first? 

I think you are making a very brave move and I congratulate you for that. No one should put up with the behaviour that you are describing. I’m just trying to encourage you to be convicted in your decision ( although you sound like you already are) 

 

how long have you felt this way? Xox

Post # 8
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It sounds like you know what you’re doing. It will be hard but you can get through this. Best wishes. 

Post # 9
Member
61 posts
Worker bee

Well on I can say is you are an awesome woman. And you know what for a girl who doesn’t have a lot of experience in relationships you are sure acting like you know the score. you deserve better than this and I’m really glad that you know it. 

you know what? We all need time to get our head around other people’s  behaviour. so dont be sorry about anything. you’ve given it a fair time and your conclusion i.e his behaviour being part of his ‘ basic character’ is just such an epic observation. I just really admire how strong you are and how inspirational you are being in relation to how honest with yourself you are being. 

bravo girl. Go get yourself some happy. The next bloke will be more than lucky to have you. 

Sending you support, strength and respect. Xox

Post # 10
Member
11227 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You’re absolutely making the right choice. The only thing more difficult than waiting a really, really, long time to meet the right person is not waiting enough and ending up with the wrong one.

Post # 12
Member
1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Good luck. Good for you for not staying a relationship that does not make you happy and doesn’t show any signs of doing so. I hope the next relationship you find yourself in is much better for you!

Post # 13
Member
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I too broke off an engagement.  Now, 5 years later, I’m getting married to my wonderful FI who really is a great match for me and I’m certain that I made the right decision. It’s good that you realized this before getting married but I know it’s still difficult. Best wishes.

Post # 14
Member
3645 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

 

It sounds like you are doing the right thing. Much better to do it now than to try and get a divorce. Good on you for recognising the signs that something isn’t right and rather than ignoring them, which can be easier in the short term, you are doing something about it. 

Post # 15
Member
11227 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@loving_life:  

Oops. That was supposed to say “long enough,” and not just “enough.” Thanks for understanding what I intended to say, despite my having accidentally edited out the word “long.”

Post # 16
Member
42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Best of luck and kuddos to you for following your gut.  I think a lot of women would stay and end up miserable.  At the end of the day you need to make sure that you are loved and cared for.  I know it won’t be easy to end an engagement, but you seem to know its for the best.  I think what you said about making a list is a fantastic idea to help remind you that you are doing the right thing in your moments of weakness.  I wish you the best and hope everything goes well.  

The topic ‘Ending My Engagement ….’ is closed to new replies.

Get our weekly roundup of the best of Weddingbee.
I agree to receive emails from the site. I can withdraw my consent at any time by unsubscribing.

Find Amazing Vendors