Post # 1
I imagine that many of you do this but I’m curious if there are any ladies that don’t do it and/or are not comfortable with it. If its something your famiily never did and you married into a family that did it would you fall in line and do it, too?
Post # 3
@mseagles: That’s how my family is, for the most part, and although I don’t love FI’s family nearly as much as I love my own, I do still love them, and I would feel comfortable saying it. But they don’t really talk that way, so it’s not something I have to worry about.
Post # 4
I only do it with two people: My father and my SO. I never do it with anyone else in my family and never have. It find it awkward saying it to other people for some reason, I just wasn’t raised saying it much at all other than to my father.
My SO’s mom once said “love you guys!” as we were leaving to go on vacation and I was like “………….you too?!” so awkwardly. It just doesn’t come natural cause I didn’t grow up saying it much. I always, however, say it to my SO.
Then there are some people I know who say it all the time, even to friends. I guess it depends on how comfortable you feel throwing the word around and how you interpret it/grew up saying it? Who knows!
Post # 5
I’d have to learn to love them first. If I didn’t know them very well and they just laid it on me, I’d feel weird and I would have to mumble something nice, but not as intimate in return…
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Yup I do this with my sister and parents, and with FI’s mom too. (She is the most wonderful lady EVER and I love her with all my heart.) I don’t really talk to his dad or siblings on the phone ever.
I bet if you “practice” with your guy’s family, it’ll start to come more easily. It really is nice and freeing to tell people you love, that you love them 🙂
Post # 7
@mseagles: In my family we say SLB, which means “see ya, love ya, bye!” so I’m not used to saying “love you, bye” but I think I could get used to it easy enough.
Post # 8
I rarely end conversations this way. Sometimes with my SO, but not very often. The only time this happens with other family memebers is if they’re out of town or something.
Post # 9
I say that to my family, close friends… I’m sure if SO & I spoke on the phone we would say it too. (We’re more of a texting/face to face couple.) Poor SO had to get used to my overly affectionate family. They are BIG huggers. He kept trying to shake hands with people and they just laughed and grabbed him.
Post # 10
My family hardly ever said “I love you” to one another. It was sort of just implied. FIs family says it if you leave the room to go upstairs!! (ok, not really, but they say it ALL THE TIME!)
I sort of adopted it from them. I like the idea of saying “I love you” when hanging up from a phone call or when leaving the house. So FI and I say it all the time.
Post # 11
My family is very vocal in the love department so we always say it to each other, on the phone and in person, FI family not so much i don’t think I’ve ever said it to his mum even tho i do.
Post # 12
@mseagles: I never tell my parents, friendss, or anyone in my family that I love them. Never something we said growing up, don’t do it now either. I really only use the L word with my FH and never when anyone can hear.
Post # 13
@mseagles: No, we never did it. My family is European/English.. you know, stiff upper lip lol. We never said that sorta sappy stuff. More actions than words. To this day I am a bit uncomfortable saying “I love you”, but I think that’s just a cultural thing. I sometimes say it and I feel it has more meaning when it’s not said 50x a day without even thinking about it. With that said, we all have our own habits so it’s not like I fault anyone who does this!
Post # 14
I say it all the time! I was raised to say it a lot, because it’s sweet. I say it to my friends because I really do love them. My friends are few, but super special to me.
Post # 15
I’m a weird person and dont like saying I love you to family. Especially not on the phone. I’m a bad person, but I think in the 2 years that me and FI have been together, I’ve told him I love him more than I’ve ever told anyone in my family. =/
Post # 16
My parents don’t do it, so I didn’t grow up around it. I went to a tiny high school, and we were very much like a family. I did and still do say it to friends from that school. FH and I do it now, probably 99% of the time.