engaement broken- first he wanted me back, now I want him back

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It’s over. You need to move on. The two of you are not compatible and not meant to be together.

Post # 4
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2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

There are other fish in the sea my dear. A relationship should not be this hard. Yes, it sounds like he is ready to move on and yes, you should leave him alone IMO.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

No one should be a second choice that a person may go back to if he can’t find anyone else in a year. He chose fishing and his mother over you before and is putting you on his back burner again. I know it hurts but it sounds like you need to cut him out of your life. 

One day you will find someone who makes you their first priority. What you described is not a healthy relationship. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@twu123:  you weren’t happy in the relationship so what makes you think if you got back together things are going to be different? 

time to get some closure and move on.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First (( HUGS )) cause I know this has left you hurt & confused.

In truth…

I didn’t need to read your whole post… as it is very clear to me that you two just aren’t on the same page / compatible.

LOVE is great… but to make a Marriage work… it often is not enough.

A Marriage needs so much more.

My best advice… go out and get yourself the following 2 Books:

Book # 1 is by Greg Behrendt of Sex In The City fame… this one will help you get thru the Break up

It’s Called a Break Up Because It’s Broken

Book # 2 is Dr Phil’s = Love Smart ~ Find The One You Want – Fix the one you got

This Book will help you to come to understand WHO YOU ARE… and WHAT YOU WANT / NEED from a Partner

It will help you to focus on what consitutes Mr Right for you… and how to find him in the best possible way

You might want to buy this book… because chances are good you’ll want to do all the Quizes, write in the margins, highlight passages… and keep it handy to refer to as you go forward with your life and DATING WITH A PURPOSE

Hope this helps,

PS… Hang in there, I know this is all hard now.  But if you focus ON YOU being a better person moving forward, being the most AMAZING Person you can be … then you will just naturally attract a better quality of man.

 

Post # 8
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Home ownership and family will NOT keep him home more if he wants to be fishing. Trust me on this one. It will continue to undermine your relationship. I think you really do need to move on. This seems to be an issue that isn’t going to go away. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@twu123:  The little lie that keeps being told over and over is that “love is enough”. But it isnt. I have no doubt that you two love each other, but that isnt enough to build a life together. There are so many things like compatible Love Languages and williness to compromise and timing. 

You two arent compatible and dont speak the same love languages. He knows this and is doing his best to love you, but also let you go. Please do the same. 

Part of you wants to be back with him because you are lonely and scared that you’ll never find anyone ever that will love you (and that you love back). But you will and he will be so perfect for you and the relationship will be almost effortless. Give  yourself time to really embrace being single. Stop dating and just focus on yourself. 

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