Post # 1
My boyfriend and I after 4.5 years just got engaged a couple weeks ago, and his sister, after dating her boyfriend for 7 years, just was engaged at Christmas. They set their wedding date for August of 2014. My boyfriend and I have talked casually about our wedding date, and we know we want a summer outside wedding. We’ve also discussed doing it next year. I’m going back and forth on the subject and I’m someone that worry’s about how everyone else is going to react or feel about it. I know my future sister in law wouldn’t oppose this, but we have alot of the same family & friends that could be involved. I just don’t really want to wait 2.5 years to get married the following summer. My boyfriend is 7 years older and will be 35 next year, we want to have kids, but don’t want to wait too long before we start having kids. I’m so up in the air about what we should do .. Do we go ahead and have a wedding June of 2014, hey it’s our day, or do we consider their 8 other siblings, and his sister getting married in August?
Post # 3
That’s a tough one… You said that you dont think your Future Sister-In-Law will oppose you getting married so close together, and that you’re mainly worried about family attending both. I think that you should talk to your Future Sister-In-Law then and see what she thinks.
Post # 4
My Fiance has 2 younger sisters. We were engaged on May 13th, his middle sister on May 25th and his youngest on Thanksgiving. It’s all good…just start planning and things will fall into place. Don’t make it a race to the finish, just have fun and communicative with your Future Sister-In-Law.
Post # 5
@amberla10: A 2-3 month gap is fine. I admit I’ve never personally known siblings to marry this close – the closest I know is 5 months and that was no problem at all. But at either end of summer, 2-3 months apart, that should be plenty of time for everyone. You certainly don’t want to wait another year, but if possible I would move it back to May to give a little more gap.
EDIT: The gap is only for guests who have to travel. Close weddings should be fine for everyone else.
Post # 6
I got married 5 months after my sister. It worked out just fine.
Post # 7
Have you considered doing a destination wedding? That way you can plan it for winter/spring and it’ll still be warm and sunny 🙂
Post # 8
I’m getting married 5 weeks before my brother. And 3 weeks after my cousin, and 5 weeks after another cousin. And 2 weeks before a coworker. My sister is also engaged, and will get married next summer. If I had to plan around everyone else, I’d never get married. I’ve been dating my SO for 10 years, so I’ve waited enough.
Post # 9
could you get married this summer?
Post # 10
Could you do it the same weekend so people don’t have to travel twice?
Post # 11
My aunt and uncle (siblings) got married the same week for this reason, it was great for us travleing guests.
Post # 12
Having your wedding in June shouldn’t be too close to their August wedding. I also like @tampalove35:‘s idea of doing a destination wedding.
Post # 13
Plan your wedding for when works for you. Of course you’ll have a good deal of overlap in the guest list, but people understand that family weddings are important, and will do their best to attend both. I think having your wedding in June with their wedding in August is a great compromise. My husband’s cousin was married 6 or 7 weeks before we were, and that was a good amount of time.
Post # 14
In this situation, communication is really important. Although you Future Sister-In-Law will probably not mind you having a date so close, I’m sure she would appreciate it if you spoke with her first before you made a decision. Also, it would probably be nice to have someone going through the same wedding planning stages. My friend is getting married in September 2013 and me in August 2013. It’s been nice to have someone to bounce non-stop wedding ideas off of!
Post # 15
I think as long as your open and honest with your Future Sister-In-Law and let her know why you’d like to have your wedding then, she won’t care. I’m sure she wouldn’t care either way, but it’s just a nice gesture, a courtesy to discuss it with her.
Personally, I’ve been engaged about ten months now and my wedding is set for October of 2014. My sister and her bf are not even engaged yet, but they’ve talked about getting married in the summer of 2014, so their wedding would only be 3 or so months before mine and I’m not jealous at all.. In fact I wish they’d hurry up and get engaged already so we could go to bridal shows together and book things together.
Maybe you could get discounts on things like the photographer if you both booked the same one, etc. Obviously bigger things like the venue would need to be different.
Also one thing to point out to her would be that if you get married first in June, then those next two months the focus can be entirely on her wedding, whereas leading up to your june wedding, she’ll still be preoccupied with her own. That’s part of why I don’t mind if my sis goes first – her wedding would be like a dry run for me, get a real inside look (i’ve never been in a wedding party) and then afterwards focus 100% on my own!
Post # 16
Oh and side note, we had two weddings this summer both on my fiance’s side.. one in June, the other on Labour day weekend. So only 2.5 months apart. Both were in the same town which meant both were a 6.5 hour drive for us. We didn’t mind at all, we’re happy to see our family happy and getting married! No biggie!