(Closed) Engaged?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a hard time with the waiting game as well.  My fiance and I got engaged last December, but had talked about getting married about a year before that.  He had originally said he wanted to wait until June of this year (when he was graduating) but I told him I really didn’t want to wait that long. I’d rather have a long engagement!  So he moved it up and said he would propose by New Years.  It was still hard waiting, but I think  knowing the approximate time he was going to do it helped a lot. 

However, I wouldn’t recommend trying to get him to change his mind, as he probably has his reasons for wanting to wait.  I kept sane by using Weddingbee actually.  Since I couldn’t really talk about my planning in secret to anyone I actually knew, the community of Weddingbee was (and still is) my sounding board.  

Post # 4
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1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

Ok, this is an impossible thing to do I guess…but take a deep breath, and try to keep your stinky nose out of it! (this is what I had to tell myself constantly).  I am a bad bad girl, and I kept looking for every single detail that I could…squeezing every little bit of info that the FI would be willing to tell me, and smart girl that I am, I pretty much figured everything out (poor FI!). I was somewhat triumphant in that I knew what was going on, but I kind of wish I hadn’t done that!  Oops!  He still did a great job of making everything happen (and the ring was a nice surprise…I hadn’t seen that!)…

So, take a breath, stop asking questions (gosh that is hard, I know!), and just get your stinky nose out of it and tell yourself that it will happen when it happens!  Yep, easier said than done though!  Good luck! 

Post # 6
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@lovehim we are >>here<< I asked the wonderful ladies about this just today! and I will tell you what the ladies told me, to sit back and enjoy this time in my life, it’s the only time I will experience the wait for the ring.  So sit back and relax and if you really want to, scan your pictures in of your invites, post pix of the dream dress and even the dream ring!  There are tons of us in the waiting section, just waiting away lol!!!

Post # 8
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397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ lovehim: I feel you!! I’m pretty much in the same spot… my boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 6 years, and he’s decided to go for a PhD in the US (we live in Chile). So that would mean getting married mid-2010 and leaving around August, which is something we’re both comfortable with and have talked through a lot… so now it’s July and I know the proposal is coming soon () but it’s just so hard to WAIT! besides I get kind of mad at him for making me wait and start nagging… it’s sooo hard to know he’s got the "decision" in his hands now (total control freak, I know…)

So, for the sake of his sanity and mine, I decided I needed something to keep myself busy with, besides work… I’ve began knitting and am learning to felt. I highly reccomend it, it’s not only relaxing but can also be extremely useful when we actually start doing wedding related stuff (such as cake toppers, etc….)– but for now, I just feel it’s something I really enjoy. I’ve also bought some cooking books and have begun baking all sorts of bread. 

However, I agree with crebre: it’s the only time in our lives we’ll be waiting for the proposal, so I’m trying to enjoy it and (somewhat unsuccessfully) keep these thoughts to myself (and share them here with you guys 😉 ). 

Why don’t you post what you’ve planned/thought about so far? We’d be glad to have you share!!

Post # 9
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I drove myself crazy in the time between when Mr Frenchie and I looked at rings until he proposed! I wish I had some great advise other than just try not to think about it b/c I know it is probably all you can think about – I’ve been there :-/

Post # 10
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397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ohhh I just saw your "dream" e-ring… it’s gorgeous!

Post # 12
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1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

Hahaha…I feel your pain..I knew he had a ring..we had picked it together and he said it would happen within 6 mo.  But, the wait was too much and I became a crabby lady always nagging to the point he was contemplating if he had made the right decision..who was this crazy lady?  I didn’t know and neither did he…Long story short he brought back the ring to stop my pesturing and I stopped being miss grump.  Then out of the blue he surprised me with a new ring and the sweetest proposal.  Hang in there..PS WeddingBee kept me sane!!

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