Post # 1
Looking for other bees to share their stories about their proposals after a year or less of dating. My SO and I are in our 30’s and even though we are 6 months in we have already discussed the possibility of getting engaged pretty much as soon as his divorce is final. People who are close to us and see our connection are on the same page and cannot wait to see us together and his mom has already been talking babies. people who do not know us as well think we are nuts.
Our reasoning is that we both want to be married, we both want children (never had children with first wife) and we have never been in a relationship that is even close to what we have with each other (even though he was married for 5 years). Considering “we are who we are” (jobs, etc) and I have already begun to develop fibroids in my uterus and a thickened wall (not endo, just a thick wall), waiting for the sake of waiting seems stupid. I consider a wedding to just be a day and I don’t care to spend years planning something…i just want a party in my backyard with a pig roast and to start my life already! 🙂
So anyway, share your ages and your length of time knowing each other before your proposal…will you have a long engagement or are you just gonna get down to business, get the day over with and start with your lives?
Post # 3
@Tatertot2003: I met FI in April 2012 and the connection was strong and fast. He told me within a week that he would be asking me to marry him one day and he is a man of his word….we were engaged in April 2013 and will marry May 2014. I am in my early 30’s and he in his late 30’s. Neither of us has been married before nor have children….we had each never ever considered marriage in either of our prior relationships….it was never on the radar or even a remote possibility for either of us. But when we met, we knew. Everyone who knows us is supportive, especially our families. I feel like I have been waiting my whole life for this man, except I never knew it until I found him.
Post # 4
we knew each other for a while before we started dating. however, after we got together, we got engaged really quickly. like, a couple months into the relationship.
when you know, you know.
Post # 5
FI and I were engaged after 8 months of serious dating. We dated sporatically the year before, but I ended it after a few months (just broke up with ex), but the connection was there and strong. A year later, we randomly met up again and BOOM, it picked up right where it left off and 8 months later, he proposed.
I’m 27 and he’s 30.
When you know, you know 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
DH and I are both 26. We dated 9 months before getting engaged, we were friends for a while before dating. People were shocked but they got over it.
Post # 7
We dated for about 6-7 months before getting engaged. We knew each other a couple months longer than that. We’ll have had about a 9 month engagement. Both in 30’s, never married, no kids.
Post # 8
@Tatertot2003: we have already been together for more then a year but my dad and step mom got engaged after 6 months and married on their first anniversary, they’ve een together 14 years now!
Post # 9
FI and I are both 22. Met and started dating May 26 2011. He proposed unofficially in August 2011 (three months in) then again officially in February 2012 (with a ring). Been living together since December 2011 though. We’re tying the knot June 14 2014 so super long engagement! But I love him and couldn’t be happier 🙂
Post # 10
i got engaged after 9 months. My parents got engaged after 7 months and married after 13 months, they have their 30th wedding anniversary next February.
a close friend of mine married her boyfriend of 6 months at 17 – her dad signed off on it – and they’re still happily married 28 years later.
when you know, you know!
Post # 11
I’ve noticed that most of the women who posted are in their 30’s and that I believe is a huge factor. If you’ve spent your 20’s dating at a certain point you learn the type of man you are most compatible with as far as long term, and of course everyone is different though regardless of age. I say this because my wedding is planned to where I will be getting married just under 2 years of dating. But we did move in together after 6 months and that worked out wonderful based on our compatibility.
i think my mistakes and lessons learned in my 20’s brought me a certain amount of experience to feel confident in who I’ve chosen to spend the rest of my life with.
Plus instincts! It’s almost like being psychic lol 😉
Post # 12
Two weeks after meeting each other, we decided to get married! It was basically a foregone conclusion! We are also both in our mid 30’s and divorced. We know what we want and were blissfully in love.
We were formally engaged after a year and married 8 months later. We would have been engaged earlier but my DH had surgery and was recovering.
If you’re grown ups, you’re settled and you’re in your mid-30’s, just go for it!
Post # 13
We got engaged after dating for 10 months, but we had a two year engagement.
Post # 14
@Tatertot2003: We started dating 3 months after we met and got engaged 7 months later. We’re both 23, been together for almost 4 years, got married last year. Had a long engagement because family thought we were rushing.
Post # 15
@tobemrstaddesse: Your situation sound similar to mine! We got engaged (without a ring) 5 months into dating in January 2010. I was 20 and he was 24. He proposed again with a ring in October 2010. I felt more comfortable saying yes so soon into the relationship because I knew we would have a long engagement (I wanted to wait until after I graduated college to get married).
Post # 16
@Tatertot2003: When you know, you know. People who have never ‘known’ just don’t understand. I see the need to wait for the sake of waiting when you’re in your teens and early 20s. Finish school, get your career started, know where you’re going to land and if you’re comfortable landing where your SO lands, or if you want to make your own path.
I met my fiance in December 2011. I was 28 and he was 26. I had just moved to a new city for a job which I loved and felt like I had found a place I could call home. He graduated from a technical high school and even though he’s two years younger, it seems like he’s been a ‘grown up’ longer than me since he started his career right out of high school, and i took 4 1/2 years after high school to finish college. We had both been engaged before, but never set a date and looking back we realize we never really had any intention of marrying, it just seemed like the thing to do after having been in the relationships as long as we had (him 3 years, and me 8 years!). Since I was really fresh out of my 8-year-relationship, I wasn’t looking for anything other than a circle of friends in my new city. I was having the time of my life living for the first time as a grown up single adult with my own apartment and disposible income! He had pretty much given up on dating after a series of failed attempts after his ex-fiance. We met and instantly hit it off. Although we kept it casual for a while, we were inseparable from the beginning. We saw each other 3 to 5 times a week from the get-go and it quickly turned into him staying every weekend at my apartment, and us seeing each other almost every day after work. We were careful not to put a label on it for a while, but by the first week of February he said to me, “so, I think this might be a thing.” I asked what that meant and he said, “well, I guess you’re my girlfriend.” I of course responded with, “well, if it walks like a duck, and acts like a duck….” He said he loved me within the next few weeks (I of course said it back) and we both started talking about this being forever. After we made it official, he started staying at my apartment, not just on weekends, but every night, and when my lease was up in June 2012 we moved into an apartment together, where we still currently live. Although we knew it was headed toward marriage pretty early on, we felt like we needed to give it a full year before making it official. Shortly after our 1-year anniversary, and just a week before Christmas, he took me back to the bar where we met and proposed in the spot where we had our first kiss. I just turned 30 in July, he is 28, and we’re getting married on September 21, 2013, just 1 year and 9 months after we met, 1 year and 7 months after we made our relationship :official,” 1 year and 3 months after we officially moved in together, and 9 months after we got engaged.