- 9 years ago
I’ve been w/ my FI for going on 6 years. We got engaged last July and since then have fought more times then ever before. What the heck?!? I can’t tell you how many times he’s freaked out (the first time was about our cat getting really, really sick and having to use our venue deposit money to pay the ER vet) about not being about to pay for the wedding. I keep saying "Even if we can’t do it (financially) I’ll wear my dress down to the court house. I just want to marry you!". Take last night – it’s 2am and I am woken from a sound sleep by his voice (he’s downstairs playing x-box live) I go down "can you try to keep it down?" I don’t remember being crabby about it, but to him I was. It got to the point where I went downstairs AGAIN and sat on the couch watching him play because I couldn’t sleep anyway. So now I’m feeling totally disrespected because he was loud (he did lower the volume, but I could still hear it) and he’s all angry because he feels I’m "baby-sitting" him, or that he can’t do certain things in our home. He gets hurtful and says mean stuff. I cry and get dramatic. So what do I do? Does anyone else have this issue right now? It makes me doubt myself and our relationship, and that my weddingbee friends is a horrible thing to think with "the" dress hanging in the spare bedroom.