Post # 1
Bridal Bees & Mama Bees – hoping you can provide some perspective on my quandary.
My FI and I have been engaged for a few months and have planned a late Spring wedding (private ceremony with our parents and siblings followed by a party with friends and extended family). Just found out I am pregnant (surprise!) so I would be 7 months along at the time of our celebration (ironically, the save the dates were just about to go out). Since I’m 38 and we planned to have children, overall this is happy news :). However, it presents some issues with our wedding plans. Now we would like to get married sooner, then perhaps just have a celebration party in the Spring (guests are relatives and mostly our parents’ friends, and many already know about it). Since we’re only doing a simple wedding with immediate family, it’s just a matter of getting everyone together (our families live about a 4-5 hours drive apart). We thought of a great solution – to get married on New Year’s Day at a lodge where both of our families could stay. The lodge is available and equidistant for both families to travel by car, but the only trouble is notifying our families in time to plan. My FI thinks it would be rude to only give a couple weeks notice, and I agree, but I am hesitant to make the announcement until I go to the doctor this week and find out everything is ok with my pregnancy. I’m also slighly overwhelmed at the moment and not sure I can take on reactions, concerns, advice from family just yet. So, do we notify our families this weekend in time to plan for a New Year’s celebration…or wait 5 days until we visit the doctor and risk not being able to pull together a New Year’s wedding? Thoughts? Ideas? Support!? THANKS BEES – so glad I can post since I haven’t been able to share the news with anyone yet.
Post # 3
My personal opinion would be to wait until you’ve seen the Dr. Of course, I’m thinking all will be great when you go it, but it’s better to be 100% sure before you start spreading the news.
Could you still give a heads up to your families that you’re looking to wed on New Year’s Day? Maybe mention that you love the idea of starting the new year as a married couple and how it’s also a great opportunity to get the families together around the holidays. Then, after the Dr. appt., share the pregnancy news?
Ps. CONGRATULATIONS!!! What exciting news!!! 2013 will be a fabulous year for you both!!
Post # 4
If you want to do a New Year’s wedding, I would let your guests know now, ASAP, and just don’t mention anything about being pregnant yet. You haven’t officially announced the wedding date yet, so it’s not like you’re changing the date and need to explain anything. You can announce the pregnancy (congrats!!) once it’s further along & things look ok according to the doctor.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Maybe start asking them now if they want to do a NYE party? And then after the doctor visit, when everything looks good (knock on wood), tell them that oh yeah, it’s our wedding!
Post # 6
@lolot: Wonderful idea!
And congratulations! So much happy news 🙂 The logistics will fall into place. People will be so happy to celebrate with you for BOTH reasons!
Post # 7
@MadTownGirl: Thanks so much! I like that thought of starting the new year as a married couple. I told my FI we should just try to get everyone together on NYE for fun, but he thinks they’ll ask why we’re changing plans. Your idea might just be the perfect reasoning…or at least it might buy us the time until the doctor appointment 🙂 Thanks again – it’s so helpful to have an outside perspective!
Post # 8
After you confirm with the good news, may be you can do a small wedding for now with close families and friends just for now. After you had the baby, then you can have a big wedding..So you can celebrate for both things. Thats what i did, we had a small ceremony and now my kids are already 5 and 3, we still havnt had a real big wedding..Since the weddings are so expensive, we are having 2nd thoughts..But i still want to have a dream wedding tho.