- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
FI and I have only FIVE days off together a month. That’s just how our schedules work. I’m off 7 days a month, 5 are spent with him, 2 days….by myself or with him until he goes to work. This is how my schedule works I’ll be off on a monday & Thursday one week. The 2nd week, I’m off on just Wednesday. The 3rd week, I’m off Thursday, Friday, Saturday, & Sunday. The fourth week, I work ALL week. Then repeat. His schedule goes like this. This week, he worked Monday & Tuesday. He was off on Wednesday & Thursday. He works tonight, tomorrow night, & Sunday night. Then next week, his schedule is the opposite of this week. Out of my days off, I get those 2 thursdays by myself. And days that I work, and he’s off, he comes and visits me after I get off work
ANYWAYS. Here lately, for the past couple months. Well…since we got engaged in December (’08) it just seems like we’ve been edgy on our days off together. Now FI loves to joke & cut-up. I do too….but I can be irritable. It starts out fun, then he keeps on, and I get aggrivated & get mad. The past two months have been like this, were it ends ups we’re crying and apologizing to each other.
Example: Back in March, on our weekend off together, we were painting a room in our home we bought (We don’t live in it together yet; we don’t even live together; not until October) When I do work, I want to "work now, play later". Yah, it’s totally okay to joke every once and a while. It keeps you sane. Well, he wanted to joke around and act like he was going to paint my pants. I asked him to quit. 6 times I asked him to. I finally got mad and told him to move out of my way. I dropped my paint brush, and stormed out of the room, and walked out of the trailor. I was trying to avoid saying hurtful things by walking away. Thats what I do. And I know that that hurt him. He finally came outside and brought me back in the house. We sat there in the kitchen floor and I cried, apologizing for being a b****. He said that I wasn’t, and he was sorry for being aggrivating.
It just seems like we get like that more, now. I don’t know if it’s the stress of getting our home fixed up and together, and planning a wedding, and dealing with the stresses of life, and just being away from each other. But I end up feeling bad afterwards. We ALWAYS apologize to each other. We’re very open & honest to one another. We never fight, because we always talk our disagrements out. We work well like that. We honestly don’t feel as if this will continue after October.
Did any of you OR are any of you going through something like this.
(Sorry if I used bad grammer; I just needed to get this off my chest)