Post # 1
This is technically my first solo post 😛 ive rewritten it a million times and finally decided on this.
I’ve laid off the wedding talk with my partner so help ease the pressure for him – his parents and friends are enough without me. But geeeeeez waiting can be hard some days! Lol.
I would give the whole story for us, but it’d take forever. Long story short, I know he’s thinking about it, I think he’s planning it and I know what he wants in the proposal (silver ring, total surprise, my dad’s permission and the ring I’ll wear forever) buuuuuut there’s so much I don’t know. So more or less, my big question for all you lovely ladies and gents is –
How aware of the proposal were you? Did you know when exactly it would happen; did you have a feeling it was going to happen soon but not sure when; did you have no idea; did you kinda suspect but he/she ninja threw you off? feel free to comment if I’ve left out an option for the poll!
i think it’s happening soon(ish) but his hot/cold attitude makes me wonder if it’ll be a while (like he has only talked about it due to external pressure) or he’s being sneaky and trying to throw me off! (Since he’s made such a point about surprise).
Thank you already ^.^
Post # 2
My situation is a bit different because you’d think I would “know” he was going to propose… We are each other’s first sweethearts, we both believe in marriage, and we got to a stage that we had both finished uni and started very good jobs. We don’t live together yet and all my friends were getting married…but despite all this I had absolutely no clue – being each others first we had often discussed how we didn’t want to get married just because it was the next step of the relationship and the natural progression – so I thought at some point we’d have the chat and ‘decide’ to marry because all these years later we are so madly in love. But he still managed to get in first with a beautiful, romantic and elaborate proposal that took him months to organise 🙂
Be patient and don’t think too much about it because it will happen when it’s right, and the added pressure from people takes away from the specialness (is that a word?) for him – it’s his moment as well 🙂
Post # 3
I knew it was going to happen only because my SO and I agreed to get engaged this summer and we work opposite days, so we never have any days off together. When he mentioned that we both had Memorial day off together and that we should go for dinner and a walk on the beach that day I knew he was going to propose. I was still shocked and extrememly excited though! It didn’t take away from the moment at all. He has no idea I knew, but like I said even though I knew I was still surprised if that makes sense 🙂
Post # 4
I had no idea! Obviously we’d discussed marriage enough to know we both wanted to get married and that this would probably be to each other but we’d not gone any further than that. My MOH asked me at Christmas if I thought I’d marry him and I said yeah, but didn’t think we’d get engaged until at least after September 2015… he propsed in February and the wedding is March 2015!
Post # 5
ragamuffin: overall I was surprised because anytime I asked him when, he’d give me a jokey answer or whatever. BUT he was acting weird the day of, so I kind of suspected.
Post # 6
ragamuffin: FI and I knew about 6 months in that we would be together forever. We started the married talk about a year in. And since I’m not very subtle, about three months before getting engaged I started leaving pictures of my dream ring as my screen saver. I knew FI was going to go the route of having one made, so I wanted to make sure that it absolutely was the ring I will wear forever. This may sound pushy to some, but FI actually appreciated how very clear I was on what I wanted (2ct asscher blue sapphire with a half pave band set in platinum).
I honestly thought he was going to propose in February. We were planning a vacation and I thought he might have done it then. But the ring was ready about three weeks ahead of schedule. I guess the jeweler put a rush on making it because he wanted FI to have it before Christmas just in case he planned on popping the question then.
I had no idea FI had the ring. It was sitting in out nightstand for a couple weeks. It was torture for FI to hold onto it so he wound up proposing a few days before Christmas.
In hindsight there were a million signals that he was ready to propose, but I didn’t pay attention. He used to ask me how I imagined being proposed to, but I wouldn’t give him a straight answer other that a directive not to do it at home. I told him that I didn’t want to imagine because I didn’t want to get my hopes up in case it doesn’t happen. Moreover, I didn’t want to spoil the spontaneity of romance.
Post # 7
Naww thanks guys :3 it’s so nice to have a support board like this.
I want it to be a special time for him too, as well as me, so I want to give him his wish of it being a surprise. It helps being able to focus the wedding thought into places like this, pinterest and my other engaged friends, as well as put the leftover energy into work and uni 🙂 he’s a sneaky thing, so I know I won’t exactly see it coming, even if he gives little signs – some of which I’m probably already missing cause we have other stuff to think about haha.
Even if it doesn’t happen for a while, I’m so happy to know he’s just thinking about it ^.^
Post # 8
I knew my FI had the ring (he didn’t know I knew), and he was acting very strange the night before he proposed, and he was very quiet the day of too. I was actually irritated with him when I got to his house that day because he’d been really short with me all day through text. Turns out he was just busy planning the proposal. Happy waiting!
Post # 9
I had no idea. My FI and I had been together for over 3 years at that point and had talked about marriage but never really had any set timelines. I started getting antsy around the 2 year mark, but eventually decided I didnt care when we got married and just focused on being happy in our relationship. I expected we’d get married at some point but I figured it was a ways off.
We went on vacation to Disneyland and he proposed while we were there. It was entirely unexpected, and he had told me that he’d gone with a friend to get a ring a few weeks before our vacation because he was planning on proposing while we were away. He also told me about the few instances where the surprise was almost spoiled (his friend had bought a ring for his gf for her bday and left the box in his car because he didnt want his gf thinking it was an ering, his SIL had made a comment on his facebook page…things like that)