Post # 1
Hi Bees! SO and I took a big step towards becoming engaged this weekend. Here’s what we’ve narrowed down:
1. The center diamond will be a family diamond from my side of the family. There are several between .75-1 carat in a safety deposit box back home near my parents. We are visiting in March and that’s when Mom and I will discreetly pick one out 🙂
2. Setting and labor will be from Shane Co.
3. We went to Shane Co. and found a setting and band we both LOVE. Haven’t purchased anything yet.
Sounds perfect, right?! …And then I got home and started having concerns. The shank on the ring we like is very thin, which I love, because it looks delicate and pretty on my hand. But I would like to wear my ring every day and I’m worried that it will not be substantial enough. Also, the diamond sits very high. Although it has six prongs, I worry that the diamond will get caught or knocked on things and potentially fall out. With a family diamond that is priceless, this would be my worst nightmare!
So, your opinions, please. Here is the setting we both love:
Having a hard time with the pic of the side view. Here’s a link, if you’re willing to view it. It’s the first one on the page (top left): http://www.shaneco.com/Jewelry-Catalog/Design-Your-Own/Rings/Engagement-Rings/?O=Site&Metal=Yellow-Gold&ST=Pave
My questions are, should I go with something with more of a cathedral setting to guard the diamond along the side and a slightly thicker band, or stick with the setting I love and risk it? It’s a big purchase for us, and I only want to do it once–i.e. I would not like to get a second e ring someday.
Or, suggest something totally new! (just not bezel.)
Thanks for the tips and advice!
Post # 3
Very pretty! I think you should go with the setting you love. The diamond won’t fall out…. The prongs Will be very strudy. My center diamond sits high and it gets lint in it asouthern occasional cat hair Lol but I just pull it off. My ring is 8mm high, and I love it. I wanted something that was high, you’ll get use to it!
Post # 4
@MissTzatzik I think the setting you chose will look beautiful !
Post # 5
How beautiful! I love the setting you picked out, and it’s so special that you get to have a diamond from your family. I’d stay with your setting, because if you can always add a wedding band that makes it thicker. You may want to ask the jewelers for their opinion on it, but I think you should get what you love.
Post # 6
@MissTzatziki: Stick with the setting you love!!
If you’re purchasing it from Shane & Co and getting the diamond set there, see if they offer some sort of warranty for the setting and get ring insurance. It is possible it could need some minor maintenance in the future mainly for the stones on the band, but I think your center stone should be fine. My ring has similar prongs and I haven’t had any issues.
Post # 7
I used to work in a jewelry store, and usually 6 prongs aren’t used unless the diamond is 1 carat or bigger, that being said, since you have 6 prongs and your diamond will be somewhere between .75 and 1, you should be in GOOD shape. 🙂 Mine is 1 carat, I have 4 prongs and mine also sets up kind of high. I’ve been engaged for 3 years and I haven’t had any problems. I waitress as a side job and have never had any trouble with it.
Something to think about… does the place that is setting your ring have some kind of diamond bond or protection plan? I know a lot of stores offer you a plan where you bring your jewelery in every so often to get it checked and if there is ever anything wrong, like a broken prong, or it becomes loose, they fix it FOR FREE!
Hope this was helpful! 🙂
Post # 8
Thank you all so much for the replies! I think in my heart I know I love that one too much to let it go, and it’s nice to hear you all say I should go with my gut!
@FutureMrsMcLaughin: LOVE your ring! Gorgeous and I’m glad it is working out well for you!
@jaim1104: MidnightSun: To answer your questions: Shane Co. has a lifetime warranty that will replace the side diamonds for free, as long as I bring it in every six months (they will clean the ring and tighten the prongs then as well). I emailed the salesperson we met with when we stopped in, and she explained the policy and said she has only ever seen one person lose a center diamond, and as long as I’m not too hard on it, I should be fine. They will not cover the center diamond because it’s heirloom and not purchased from them, but we’ll have it insured.
Here is the matching band, for reference:
The same width as the shank on the e-ring. When I put them both on together, that was when SO said, “Yeah, that one is the best. I really like that one.” For him to express an opinion on the topic, I knew it had to be good. They looked perfect together!
I never used to be a fan of soldering rings together, but if we go with these, I am really considering it. I think having them soldered would make me feel more confident that the band will hold up, and they look so nice when they are perfectly flush against one another. Any thoughts for/against soldering?
Post # 9
@MissTzatziki: 🙂 I like that band. Very pretty. A jeweler told me a set can be un-soldered… which I didnt know. The benefit is that your wedding band wont spin, and they wont rub together. The down side, is if you do somewhere that you may not want to wear your ering such as an inner city/public transit/ out of the country etc. you may just want to wear your wedding band and leave your Ering at home. I can think of some times where I would likely just wear my wedding band. I live the bay area and am not super into the idea of wearing my Ering on public transit, no need to make myself a target.
Post # 10
@FutureMrsMcLaughin: I thought about that as well…I know he would like to get me an anniversary band sometime down the line, so that is an option. But until then, maybe we could get an affordable plain band that I could wear on vacations or in the city.
Post # 11
@MissTzatziki: thats a good alternative, just a nice little ring as a place holder.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I got mine from Shane Co! It has about 100 tiny diamonds, pave set. I did lose one of the side diamonds once (after having it resized), but they replaced that without blinking. And going in twice a year is really reassuring, since they’ll check and make sure everything is set properly.
My stone is only like .5 carats, with four prongs (and it is emerald cut, so different altogether!), and I whacked it pretty good once, but nothing happened. I think you’ll be fine, especially if you make sure to get it checked out once in awhile (they email you when it is time, it is so convenient… and I guess if you move or something and there isn’t a Shane Co nearby, you can go to a different jeweler and have them inspect it, and then forward their info to Shane Co to keep the papers up to date.)
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I have a thin band e-ring with a high-ish 6 prong Tiffany-style setting and a thin 3/4 eternity band. I’ve never had a durability issue with either of them. So I’m another vote for going with what you love.
Post # 14
@MissTzatziki: I adore this setting and actually chose it in RG for myself! Didnt end up with it but still want it for a RHR. I think you should stick with it if you love it! Update us! 🙂
Post # 15
@MissTzatziki: So, I have the same exact ring from Shane Co., and I love it! I am not going to get them sauldered together, only because I think there will be times when I want to wear just the band. I’m getting married in September, so I don’t have to worry about that yet! I have a 1 ct round diamond in a 6 prong setting. The center stone does sit high up, but that’s what makes it look so gorgeous! I do have to take it off when I’m doing my hair or other things where it could get caught on something. I will tell you that I have had to take it to Shane Co twice for repairs since I got it in November 2012. Two of the side stones fell out…however, they assured me this was because I had it sized, and after sizing it can temporarily loosen the settings for the side stones. They are very quick to repair and are great with service. Everything is fully covered, so I don’t really worry about it. I get so many compliments on my ring, and I’m so happy I chose it! I was debating between it an another ring for awhile, but my heart was drawn to this one. Go with your gut! You will love it! Also, try not to panic if a side stone falls out…their warranty is great! Happy soon to be wedding planning…prepare yourself, choosing the ring is easy part, just wait till you get to the guest list!!! Haha :).
Post # 16
@jsimp12: That is very reassuring to hear! I am pretty impressed by their warranty. I see it on your hand and I am just pining after it! haha. I love how it looks on. He will be ordering it in my size, so (hopefully) it will not have to be resized unless I gain or lose a ton of weight at some point in my life. And yes, I know we will have a TON more decisions to make once the actual proposal happens, but after being a waiting bee for so long, I’m just ecstatic that we have taken this first big step! 🙂
Thanks all of you for the thoughts and advice!!