Post # 1
I am engaged ( if i can even call it engagement) to a guy who has been divorced and 25 years older than me, he doesnt want kids as he has his own and i am not really boderd with kids. we just passed our 2nd engagment year. i left him around october as he was getting abusive when he got angry and i couldent take it any more. well, i got back to him as he promissed not to behave badly and he will marry me in this year (2013) so i camet back . last night the subject of getting married came up by me (as always) and he said he is married to me in his heart we live together and thats a commitment and we dont need to make it happen legally as it make things complicated. so i asked him why did he promissed me to get married while i left him… he said well he has changed his mind and will not marry enyone legaly and he said in few years time he will buy me a place as a security… so now after all this going and coming back like a yoyo I dont know what to do !!!!
Post # 3
Uh… you’re with this guy because why exactly? He made a vague promise to buy you property in the distant future?
Leave him and seek an abuse counselor, otherwise you’re stuck in a cycle of going back because you can’t tell the difference between love and abuse.
Post # 4
There’s somerhing wrong if he’s been abusive and is now refusing to make things legal
Post # 5
This guy sounds like a piece of work. I would leave just because of the past history of abuse alone.
And how is buying you a piece of property “security”? If you’re not married I assume it will be in his name, and you would have no rights at all if he decided to kick you out.
Post # 6
@SnurfMurph86: no its not about the property, thats another trick h eis playing to make me stay, i dont care. i love him i dont realy want to leave him but now he has made it clear he will never marry me legally im thinking if geting marry is important or we should just like this and live together as it is.
Post # 7
@Mosh: Look, a bunch of strangers aren’t going to convince you to leave. All I will say is this. He abused you. He is continuing to abuse you. When someone shows you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM.
Post # 8
@Mosh: Wait wait wait….
I left because he became abusive…. and I came back because he said he would stop?
An engagement is the least of your worries. What the hell?
Post # 9
@LeavinOnAJetPlane: +1 youre better than he is treating you.
Post # 11
if you know he’s “tricking you” and playing games to make you stay, why exactly are you staying?? If you want marriage, why would you settle for someone who wont give you that?
And more imoortantly, why would you go back to someone who has abused you? You need to leave this douche, and fast.
Post # 12
Oh honey, you need to get out NOW. The second I saw the word “abusive” on this post, my mind was made up. No woman deserves to be in a dangerous situation and I understand that it can be difficult to leave someone that you care about, but you are the most important thing. And from your post, it sounds like this just isn’t a safe situation.
Pack your bags, now, and leave. You have no safe future with this man.
Post # 13
I am at a loss for words..I don’t even understand…why would ANYBODY do this to themselves?
You went back to him? Just…wow. It’s hard to feel sympathy..
Post # 14
@Mosh: Why are you even with him? He’s abusive, leave!
Post # 15
@PacificMrs: when he gets angry he gets verbaly abusive … i know i just need a kick in my head …
Post # 16
Frankly I see many reasons to leave this man but not a single reason to stay
What would you do if you weren’t afraid (of being single again)?