(Closed) Engaged but he said he is never going to legally marry me …

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Uh… you’re with this guy because why exactly? He made a vague promise to buy you property in the distant future?

Leave him and seek an abuse counselor, otherwise you’re stuck in a cycle of going back because you can’t tell the difference between love and abuse.

Post # 4
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Leave.

There’s somerhing wrong if he’s been abusive and is now refusing to make things legal 

Post # 5
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8164 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This guy sounds like a piece of work. I would leave just because of the past history of abuse alone.

And how is buying you a piece of property “security”? If you’re not married I assume it will be in his name, and you would have no rights at all if he decided to kick you out.

Post # 7
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Mosh:  Look, a bunch of strangers aren’t going to convince you to leave. All I will say is this. He abused you. He is continuing to abuse you. When someone shows you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM.

Post # 8
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2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mosh:  Wait wait wait….

I left because he became abusive…. and I came back because he said he would stop?

An engagement is the least of your worries. What the hell?

Post # 10
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724 posts
Busy bee

BUH BYE NOW

Post # 11
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

if you know he’s “tricking you” and playing games to make you stay, why exactly are you staying?? If you want marriage, why would you settle for someone who wont give you that?

And more imoortantly, why would you go back to someone who has abused you? You need to leave this douche, and fast. 

Post # 12
Hostess
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh honey, you need to get out NOW. The second I saw the word “abusive” on this post, my mind was made up. No woman deserves to be in a dangerous situation and I understand that it can be difficult to leave someone that you care about, but you are the most important thing. And from your post, it sounds like this just isn’t a safe situation. 

Pack your bags, now, and leave. You have no safe future with this man. 

Post # 13
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1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am at a loss for words..I don’t even understand…why would ANYBODY do this to themselves? 

You went back to him? Just…wow. It’s hard to feel sympathy..

Post # 14
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Mosh:  Why are you even with him? He’s abusive, leave! 

 

Post # 16
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3341 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Frankly I see many reasons to leave this man but not a single reason to stay

What would you do if you weren’t afraid (of being single again)?

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