Post # 1
After 2 years and a half and a few months of having the ring in his possession, FI decided to pop the question on a random weekend after a beautiful night out in the city..in our bedroom..hum..yes..candles and 2 dozen roses were waiting for me with a ring on the bedstand. I..um..didn’t see the ring at first and thought he was just being romantic for the heck of it, but when i finally saw it and turned around, he was already on one knee (or was it both?! lol) and asked me to be his wife. Literally. “will you be my wife.”
It was cute and genuine..
Until he confessed about how he had wanted to do it in Egypt when we were there…or even Disney, since we’re leaving in 2 days for an entire week.
He said he wanted it to be a surprise and that he wanted us to be engaged when we went to disney.
He had good intentions but I can’t help but be a little disappointed..the surprise factor isn’t that important to me..what matters is the thought and effort put into it..and it doesn’t seem like he put any of those into it. He said he thought about it last week and got his dad to buy cheap roses and put them in our room to surprise me.
I don’t want to sound ungrateful…but…I seriously wish it had happened differently.
I’m so happy that the man of my dreams wants to be with me forever, don’T get me wrong!!
I just..wow…I can’t even mention this to anyone cause it would just sound too horrible =( I feel really bad about feeling this way…I thought he was making me wait so long because he had something super romantic planned but nope..it was only the surprise factor for him..
Has this happened to you? I hope I’m not the only one that hasn’t been proposed to in a hot air balloon or in a gondola in venise (which happened to a girl while we were in venise last fall..)..or any other super romantic place.
Post # 3
Oh boys….sometimes they are really should just keep their mouths shut on certain details.
I think it’s cute that he wanted to travel with his not his gf but his fiance to Disney, the ring has probably been burning a hole in his pocket! It’s a really nerve-wracking moment for a guy! He wants it to be everything you’ve dreamed of and not disappoint…but they are so nervous that sometimes they stumble over themselves in the planning.
Maybe he felt like you would expect the proposal when you were on a big trip? And he was trying to catch you off guard? Or…and I think this is probably the case, he felt comfortable in your room and wanted it to be an intimate, private moment?
The important thing is, he loves you very much.
Don’t feel bad…just be happy!
Post # 4
I think you’ll find that a lot of bees had more “practical” proposals. Mine was at the beach where we had our first date, but I was a fantastic bitch to him that day, which kind of put a damper on things.
Post # 5
I kinda get where you are coming from but all that really matters is that you are engaged to the man you love. My DH proposed in our living room Christmas Eve. I was in my PJ’s lol! My ring was inside a Kinder Egg in my stocking which I thought was SO sweet and thoughtful.
However, when my friend got engaged she was on top of the CN Tower having dinner and her bf had a plane fly by with a banner reading “(name) will you marry me”? Extreme! Sweet but very different.
Maybe if he had done it at Disney or in Egypt he would have lost the ring…or maybe customs would have found it and the surprise would have been ruined 🙂
Post # 6
Umm you just said he WAS romantic, then you say it wasn’t romantic enough? Man, oh man.
I mean really, if you wanted a grand, super urber huge proposal I think it is up to YOU to make that happen not him. He thought it WAS romantic, sweet, thoughtful and had the surprise element.
Post # 7
You got candles and roses, that’s a lot more than I got with my proposal. It could always be worse.
Post # 8
Yea its supposed to be a surprise, so you dont talk about it, but we all have certain things we have always pictured… Sounds really romantic though 🙂
Post # 9
I got proposed to on a cliff where we had our first date. It was SUPER romantic.
3 minutes later he started talking about how he was so nervous, did I know it was going to happen, yadda yadda. I was bummed he ruined the moment by talking about the details of his proposal.
But I got over it pretty quick. I will always hold that moment in my heart where the man I love got down on one knee and asked me to spend the rest of my life with him!!
Post # 10
@PinkPinstripes: …thanks! you’re right, he was VERY nervous that night..so nervous he even got one 2 knees instead of 1! lol I’ll always remember that =)
@SapphireSun: Aww! It took me everything not to be pissed at mine because he seemed too much in a hurry to get back home that night..lol..
Post # 11
My husband got so anxious the day he got the ring in hand he did it as soon as possible with absolutely no planning. He hid it in my vanity drawer so I would find it when I got ready in the morning with a note saying something along the lines of “is it about time yet?”. If that wasn’t romantic enough… he over slept that morning so when I came back into our room with the ring I had to wake him up to seal the deal.
At first I didn’t know what to think about my proposal and wondered how I’d answer all the inevitable “how’d he do it” questions, but then I kind of came to realize that I’m absolutely content with his day to day love and affection and always always feel cherished, so for me I didn’t really need some record breaking proposal to feel validated about it all.
So my point is… it sounds like your FI really did put a lot of thought into it even though he likely could have gone bigger/better. It sounded very sweet and thoughtful and take my word for it… it could have been LOTS less romantic haha
Post # 12
@vmec: I’m sorry if you got offended and I appreciate your empathy.
To everyone else : Thank you for commenting =) Feels good to hear from you all!! I’ve got a great man whom I’m engaged with and I couldn’t be more grateful for having him in my life =) You’ve helped me to see things in a different light and I thank you all for it!! I love hearing all of your stories..thanks for being there! xox
Post # 13
I think you should just be happy that he proposed and got candles and roses.
Post # 14
I think often ladies just forget that if different people have different ideas of “romance” mine is NOT flowers, and air ballons, but yours may be. It’s up to the couple individual to convey what you deem appropriate and or romantic in your relatinoship. If flowers means THE WORLD to you, you need to tell him.
To me flowers mean death on earth- why? Because they aren’t organically, locally farmed. (Okay extreme example- but you get the idea.) Just realize to him, calling his father to buy flowers (cheap or not cheap) took time, and thought. Candles took money and more time. He could have paid 1000 bucks to the hot air ballon guy and said “we’ll be there at 5pm you do the rest” how hard/ thoughtful is that?
Okay, I’m done here you get the idea… It actaully sounds quite romantic and very sweet.
Post # 15
Mr G proposed in his driveway… which is sweet in a way, because we had our first kiss there. But it was 5:30, so everyone driving down his VERY busy street from work saw our moment. I, like you, wanted a bit more pomp and circumstance, but I’m still thrilled to be engaged. Hey, just enjoy Disney and Egypt as an engaged woman!
Post # 16
I feel your pain but I dont completely agree, let me explain. I dont think it is the place so much that matters but the timing. I knew my fiance got my ring before we went on a family vaca (The 2 of us, our son, his parents, siblngs and siblins sign others) and that he would propose there. He proposed on a horseback riding trip thru the rainforest. Puerto Rico, horseback, beautiful setting, you think Ooo La La. Well it wasn’t.
We stoped for a quick break for the guides to take the riders pictures. He puled the ring (no box) from his pocket and super rushed asked me to marry him. It was quite unromantic. I told him to ask me again, hoping this time it would sound better or bring some sort of OMG feeling. It did not. I said “Yes” put the ring on my finger (myself cause he just handed it to me) and off went my horse.