Post # 1
I am 32 and he is 42 and we are already engaged for 3 years and no wedding plans have been made yet. I dont even wear my ring anymore because i am embarrased my by coworkers asking when are you getting married.
he maked no effort to keep even select a venue etc. And i really dont want to force someone to make plans with me if they dont want to. i just wonder why he gave me the ring in the first place?
The seocnd issue is that he lives in his house with parents and 2 sisters ( big family). he takes care of his older parents which is ok as they leave us alone and have a separate wing in the house, but i cant stand his sisters. He wants me to move in but i am hesitant.
I dont know what to think of all that. Talking to him is hard as he gets pretty defensive when it comes to his family.
Am i settling? Should i break it off? I am so unsure….
Post # 3
@maxfluffy: It sounds like your relationship has stalled. Have you asked him why the wedding planning has stopped?
If it were me, I’d ask myself, “Am I happy and content with no regrets if not one thing changes from now until I die?” If my answer is NO, then I would leave him. He is not going to change. Dont waste your energy trying to at this point. If he really wanted to be married to you, it would have happened by now.
Post # 4
I would just ask him ‘why haven’t we started making any plans for the wedding?’ if he says ‘because you haven’t done anything’ well maybe it’s time you took the reins and started booking some appointments?
But I think at the core of this is what will be your living arrangements when you do get married? Because if you don’t want to live with his whole family that is OK and it would take a pretty special kind of person who is willing to do that (not me, that;s for sure!).
Post # 5
@maxfluffy: Tough call…
I will say, that if you are unsure now- its probably a bad idea… I knew with all my heart, that I wanted to spend forever with my guy.
on the inverse from that, there is NO WAY that my Fiance will ever help with any wedding plans. If I did nothing, we would be permanately engaged too