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haha well it does sound like it will be a fun wedding! I guess you are going to have to compromise! The best weddings I've been to are the ones that really represent the couple and their interests.
Let him investigate the logistics of a lot of these... he might come to realise that its not actually possible!
Haha, your FI sounds like a fun guy.
I love the nerf idea!
As for the bounce house, kind of a downer, but look into having guests sign a waiver - I know a lot of people who've gotten broken ankles, wrists, etc. in them, and the landowners could be held liable. Yikes!
Maybe you could compromise with some of the nicer paperless invites out there?
Ya, I was going to say, I bet you two are super fun to be around!! HAHA... :) Your guests are going to have a blast! I think it's great that he has opinions.. just make sure you allow yourself to help with the planning!!
lol at suit of armor.... i kno someone who go married in a light blue tux. granted they were only 21 but it didnt look too terrible lol
Ahh thanks for the laugh. Imagine a wacky inflatable arm flailing man at a wedding! Sounds like you need to roll your eyes, utter "sure honey, sounds like a GREAT idea!" and walk out of the room.
I may have gotten a little too excited when I read wacky waiving inflatable arm flailing tube man...
oh man. i just cracked up at my desk. that sounds like a top wedding! wacky waving inflatable arm flailing tube man. ahh family guy. respect.
lol i think guys have a whole different way of thinking, my fiance wanted wrapped up burritos for the dinner??? oh and to add a splash of class add a thank you tag and they turn into favors as well as the food lol!!!! i laughed so hard until i figaured out he wasnt joking!!!
I think if I were to OK Star Wars stuff, my guy's groomsmen would be wearing storm trooper costumes. But he looked at me funny when I went "And we can have board games, and a bonfire, and fireworks, and... and... a SCAVENGER HUNT!" and when I went "It should be blorange. Even my mom approves of navy blue dresses and orange flowers."
I'd be up for just about everything except the invites and no photographer. My guy, fortunately, turns out to be a touch more conservative on such things than I am.
Mine wants to frame everything around our favorite TV show, "Doctor Who." It's a British show, and we're in the Midwest of the USA, so only a handful of people even know what it is.
We've snuck in a few elements (ie - blue and white for our colors, reminiscent of the TARDIS, if any of you know it) in our planning, but some of his ideas have been vetoed right off the bat. Boys have some crazy ideas. It's like they're planning a five-year-olds birthday party instead of a wedding.
What IS it with men and paperless invites and photography?
My FI thought we could get away with just putting disposable cameras on the tables at the reception. I told him all of our pictures would be crap and he said "well who cares? You only display the ones of your family." Uh, no.
And now in the midst of our RSVPs coming in he keeps saying "we should have just done an e-vite." No, we shouldn't have.
Honestly, this sounds more like a kiddie birthday party than a wedding. And if that's what you guys want, then that's fine, but are YOU on board with all of this stuff? You've listed both fun (bouncehouse!!) and logistically-challenging (self-catering) ideas. I think you maybe need to veto some off the bat (hire a real photographer, a tux rental will be cheaper than a suit of armor rental probably) and think really hard about others ... the self-catering especially worries me because:
who will serve food and drinks?
who will set everything up?
who will clean everything?
He'll say "oh our families will help with that" but ... would you, if you were in heels and a nice dress?
Also, unless grandma's on facebook, online invites aren't really going to work ...
Ohhh my! haha Well it sounds like the groom is as excited as the bride. I guess this is what a wedding would be like if we let the men plan them. My FI has thrown some funny stuff out there jokingly though I think if he could get away with it he would go for it.
I would probably really enjoy such an event though it sounds more like a party than a wedding. And you need to think if that is ok with you in the long run. If so, then go for it.
Oh my, you just gave me a good chuckle!! and I dont mean to be rude! I can't believe he is THAT opininated towards the big day, but WOW... interesting ideas! lol
Yes to the bounce house, that is fun!
No to skipping out on photographers...
Yes to the nerf idea!
No to the FB invites...
Ha! He sounds hilarious. I love those flailing arm tube man things!
My FI had some crazy ideas, too...while some of them kind of drive me up the wall, I guess I'm just glad that he cares!
Haha! Guys definitely have interesting views on weddings. My guy didn't want a photographer either (he said the same thing as your FI- that "the guests will be taking pictures anyway")... I definitely nixed that idea!!
hahaha... I love men when they start trying to figure wedding stuff out! My FI's ideas so far have been pretty reasonable and very creative... in a good way!
But when we first got engaged, he had NO clue that we chicas get TWO rings... engagement and wedding. He thought there was only one. He was pretty PO'ed for about a year (no kidding!) that I get 2 and he only gets 1... haha... love the boy. :)
The OP's fiance sounds exactly like mine! He has the absolute craziest ideas that I immediately say "NO!" Now he's saying that he has some surprise for his tux and the grooms tux and he won't say what it is. I'm so completely frustrated with him because he won't tell me what it is he is planning. I told him the ceremony is at a catholic church and I cannot have a surprise. I said to him what if you showed up in some crazy get up at the church and the priest says it's not appropriate and won't marry us...then what are you going to do? He just smiles in a devilish grin and laughs. I'm going insane and only been engaged a month!
OMGosh this is GREAT!
Definitely no on the FB invites and to not having a Photog.
LOVE the bouncer and I love the flailing tube man!
He definitely isn't aware of the time and stress or preparing food and cake for a party like that.. LOL
But I LOVE the nerf gun Idea!
I got lucky with my guy SO wanting a good photog.... He's does media at our church so that may have had something to do with it. lol
wow... umm... a suit of armor? those things are HEAVY and HOT!!!! and expensive. but... interesting idea... perhaps a different costume might be in order, though....
at least he's interested in helping!!!
eta: can I add that catering wouldn't be an issue IF you're doing buffet style, have people who WILL HELP put the food out, and if he's already a season cook and knows how to cater? 'cause my FI has catered before and his brother in law catered his first wedding to his now-ex-wife. I've even heard of other brides/grooms and their families doing this, but it's typically in a more laid-back, backyard bbq-type way.
sounds like a fun wedding, though!!!!
LOL, my FI said the exact same thing about having a photographer! He was like, why pay someone to take our pictures when everyone will bring their digital cameras? And asked why I needed a professional photographer to take pictures of my shoes.
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Don't get me wrong, I am THRILLED that FI wants to be involved in the planning. But some of his ideas are just off the wall:
He wants to send out facebook invites instead of actual invites and doesn't see anything wrong with this
He wants to make all of the food for the reception, including the cake (I told him one or the other, not both. I also think he's insane for trying to take on any of this)
Instead of people throwing rice or birdseed, he wants all of our friends to shoot us with nerf guns for the send off (I will concede this to him...It's very us, and I'll let him have it if he wants)
He wants a wacky waiving inflatable arm flailing tube man
He wants a bounce house at the reception (fine. I think it might make for cute pictures, and we're getting married at his parents' farm, so there will be space)
He doesn't think we should spend money on a photographer because people will bring cameras (vetoed the second it came out of his mouth)
He wants to wear either a light blue tux or a suit of armor
He wants his brother to officiate so he can do the "Mawwidge" line from The Princess Bride
Oh, this will be an interesting wedding.