Post # 1
On Oct 5th, 2013 I experienced something that I could only pretend to imagine.
I have been with my husband for over 7 years. When we become engaged I was so convinced I was ready that I was the one that proposed! Around the half-way point of of our 1.5year engagement I was anxious, afraid, lonely, and confused. It took me a long time to mourn the “loss of my singlehood” which involved a lot of crying. I used my social work therapy skills from my profession on myself, and with the help of some close girlfriends, was able to emtionally be ready for marraige. I reached that “I’m really ready” point 2 weeks before the wedding.
I was present and aware the entire wedding day and I was so happy. The happiest I have ever been at that point. Driving to the reception just the two of us is when I looked at him and my brain labelled him “husband” – It was real and I was calm. For a person with anxiety challenges, that feeling of calm was amazing.
The night of our wedding I couldn’t sleep. I was so happy, grateful and overwhelmed by love from everyone in attendence that I went to the bathroom and cried and laughed at the same time until all the emotion was out. That experience of letting go and accepting what was to come from the wedding was the final thing I needed to enter our marraige whole-heartedly open to the unknown of marraige.
A month later and it was all worth it. All the stress, all the confusion, all the fear, all the planning, all the family issues, everything. Getting married was worth everything, and being married to the one you love above all else is way better than I could ever pretend to imagine.
So ladies, from the other side – focus on loving your wedding day and know that it will all be worth it.
(here’s my favorite teaser – sorry I don’t like showing my face on the internets)
Post # 3
I needed to hear this! As it gets closer I’ve been getting more stressed! Thanks for posting this.
Post # 4
@SillyStacey: What a beautiful photo and recap of the emotions from your wedding experience! 🙂 Thanks for sharing and congratulations!
Post # 5
@SillyStacey: congrats on a beautiful wedding! I totally agree married life is wonderful:)
Post # 6
@SillyStacey: Congrats! And such a beautiful message, thanks for sharing that.
Post # 7
I love your dress, so beautiful!
Post # 8
Awww, thanks for sharing. I needed to hear that. I’m stressing a lot about the wedding. I keep reminding to not let the details of the wedding overshadow the marriage, but it gets hard – especially when no matter what you do someone has something negative to say about every single decision you make. I can’t wait to see my best friend waiting for me at the altar! That’s all that should really matter anyway.
Post # 9
@SillyStacey: Thank you for sharing this. I get this way sometimes…wondering if this is the right thing but then a few moments later I realize that it is, but I still go back and forth at times. My big moments were booking the venue and buying that wedding dress……all I could think, with my mom and sister and MOH/BM’s staring at me in that white dress was “This is the perfect dress….will it be for the perfect day? Am I doing the right thing?” I was quickly comforted by my self-talk that it indeed was, and is. I love this man with all my heart and I’m sure there will be many other moments that I will wonder but I always go back to the fact that it is the right thing 🙂 It’s even more comforting to know I’m not alone, and that it only gets better!!
Post # 10
@SillyStacey: awesome! i love how it says casual elegance in the back 🙂
Post # 11
@SillyStacey: I’m not even engaged, but I needed to hear this. SO and I are wedding planning well in advance (we have a wedding date, but he is proposing next summer), and the stress that is coming with it while handling other things (law school, family, etc.) is challenging.
It is so nice to hear the stress is all worth it. I know it in my heart, but in those tough moments, its so nice to be reminded.
Your teaser picture is incredible. Congratulations!
Post # 12
@SillyStacey: That was a beautiful interpretation of the “real” side leading up to a wedding and the acceptance of marriage. I can relate to everything you said!
Post # 13
I completely agree with you! And, well said 🙂 Here’s to 33 days of wedded bliss!
Post # 14
That was so beautiful to read. Thank you for sharing and congratulations!
Post # 15
@berwickm23: You are in a tough time – I found a few months out was the hardest, but if you really work on it and own your emotions you can get through it and really enjoy getting married.
Post # 16
@NicoleLyn1218: I see you are a year out. That’s when the feekings started for me. If you know he is the one and this is the right thing, focus on that and remember it’s okay to feel the way you do.